What a gorgeous day it is in the city!!! I just sent an email to my boyfriend telling him how sunny and nice it is in London. His response....."lol I cant imagine anyone in Lagos being happy about a hot sunny day, lol, wat a contrast". He got that right cause the Lagos sun nearly suffocated me a few weeks ago! Yeah I had to attend my cousins' wedding doing the whole Bridesmaid thing. It was definitely one of the most organised weddings I have ever been to so that was a big plus. Now I'm back to work and totally swamped!!! Ahh well I need to pay those bills so I best be grateful for a job.
Music Guy is one of my very old frogs from many years ago. I met Music Guy through a male family friend. I was called at the last minute whether I would like to come out clubbing. My answer was a quick Yes as I had been stuck at home with my mum the whole day and in as much as I love her I was craving going out that hot summer night. A car pulled into my driveway with 3 men and I jumped in. On our way to the club, one of the guy's stood out in the car. They were playing a CD that had been compiled by him, in fact actually song by him. At first I thought they were making it up but as the song went on I realised it was really him singing. I was blown away and wanted to ask him so many things to do with music. You see I have a passion for music, a passion so big it could at the time make or break me.
We got to the club and Music guy and I could not get enough of each other. It was as though we were friends from another life. We danced, we sat, we spoke, laughed, danced more then I got dropped off at home. We exchanged numbers and I was of cause looking forward to hearing from him. He called almost immediately as he got home and we spoke till day break and slept off. A week after he invited me to his crib and I was mentally there before I was even really there. It's amazing how excited you can get over a man! Anyway I got into his house and he had a mini recording studio thingy going on. Boyyyy was I tripped! I immediately jumped on his Mic, like a baby started fiddling on anything and everything and of cos demanded that he recorded my singing. This went on for hours never ending and I couldn't get enough of my singing lol lol. I even progressed to song writing, it just felt liberating.
I was hooked on this brother. I felt like shutting everything else down and just focusing my music energy on us. I started dreaming of making good music with him, who knows maybe he could even produce me. In reality, this brother had no money, no car, no credit cards, in short was probably surviving on Air LOLLLL. He was looking for a new job and in the meantime thought to focus his energy on music. That means everything we did had to be free. Movies were of cos free cos we watched it in his crib, eating not so free cos I will pay for it, transportation not free cos I paid, in short the only free thing we shared was Music.
Then the dreaded day came. I had been going on like a love sick rabbit obsessing over this dude and my friends were convinced I had lost my mind. They couldn't understand what this guy was doing for me. I guess I was looking for a form of escape, rebellion, young age crisis lol. So I decided to ask him straight where our friendship was leading to? He said he couldn't commit but wouldn't want to lose what we had going on. My heart broke in a million separate ways and I couldn't breathe. What can't you commit to? I mean I have overlooked the fact that you can't give me the basics and still want to be with you and yet you can't commit? Come on you know we suit each other bla bla BS. Gosh I had a lot of BS going on back then ooo. He tried his best to calm me down as I was crying uncontrollably. Before I could say "Music", dude stopped picking my calls, and at random intervals will call asking if I still wanted to carry on recording or writing music. I would say No thank you. At least I was tryna hold on to pride.
Then one sweet day, a friend of mine called me after Church, she couldn't contain herself! She was like figurella I just saw Music guy with a pregnant woman! I heard him introducing her as his fiance. I of cos told her to get off my phone that what sort of silly joke is that? I mean this is a guy that didn't look like he could feed himself talk less of 3 people (counting the baby to be). This call was barely 2 weeks after I had decided to cut him off. I immediately started digging around a bit more, contacting people that I know go to that Church. All of them said the same thing. they knew him very well as husband to this lady.
Whoaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa Where the Heck had she been??? I mean did she take a mini-vacation that became a prolonged one? I was just too shocked for words! I mean he had a wife to be and I had zero clue cos of what I perceived as his poor situation/ artist life style. LOL LOL what a joke even a broke guy will still play the fields. The Good News is he got a wife, found a job and then a car, in short he had found life again. Bad News is he was still hooked on me or should I say hooked on the "other me". The me that I so got rid off after being played by a broke ass! I mean we started as friends, I felt I had sacrificed a lot and I was still looking to go to the next level with him, I sure was a joker. Hmmmm fellow bloggers y'all should be real. How many of you are the Bank Account/The Money spender in your relationship? Or what you perceive to be a relationship? In short how many of you do all the spending on a man and still think you are in love?
Monday, 28 April 2008
Thursday, 10 April 2008
The Good Guy
Dundee Brother looks like your prayers have finally been answered! Yes I do have a tale to tell about a guy who was nothing but a breathe of fresh air. So kind at heart, had too much love to give and before I knew it fear gripped me for various reasons and I was gone! I just left him without any obvious warnings so he didn't even have time to prepare for my departure.
I met Good Guy at his parents house in Lagos over xmas. He had not been home in over a decade. They were having a celebratory/ welcome home party for him and his brother. I felt an immediate shyness when I got into their house as the last time we ever saw I was still wearing those cute Cinderella dresses lol. He had brothers my age so I use to play with them and always looked at him as much older. Now things had changed. I was now a woman and certainly more confident to talk to any guy however old. He served my family food and drinks then sat next to me to catch up on all the years. We spoke for what seemed like forever and decided to keep in touch via email. We took a few pictures with our families and said our good byes.
I got home and started having mixed feelings cause though I had a boyfriend at the time, it had not been working out. I mean I had just found out a few months before xmas that my boyfriend had been cheating on me with the same girl for what seemed like forever! He did the whole crying and pleading and before I knew it I decided to give him another chance. I guess I felt I pushed him to this other woman. I blamed myself for so long and just thought I could patch things up. Maybe I wasn't loving him enough, maybe I was too stubborn, uncontrollable but at the bottom of it all I couldn't believe the betrayal. (That being said, he alone would know the real reasons, for starters it coudl simply be he had fallen out of love with me and didn't know how to say so). I got back to London and 2 weeks after my return, Good guy sends an email. This was the beginning of a new friendship. He also had a girlfriend and they also were having serious issues. As God would have it be, the girl who my boyfriend was cheating with decided it was time to let the cat out. She actually came up to me at a club and said to my face I am still with your guy. Of cause I knew that was the end of my relationship.
2 months after my painful break up, Good guy informed me that he also needed a new start. He had called it off with his girl so we were both officially single. I flew to meet him in his State and that was the start of our long distance relationship. For the next 8 months this guy and I were at it full on. Never a day passed that I won't hear from him. In fact I was sure we both won't sleep well if we didn't speak at least once a day. I never had to worry when the next phone call would be, never had a doubt about his loyalty to me. Gosh Good guy spoilt me senseless. We flew back and forth each month so it never felt like there was any real distance. Thank God for Web cams as I remember spending nearly my whole weekends glued to my PC.
Then the cracks started happening around the 7th month. It was clear we were inseparable but now decision on what we wanted for our future started to vary. He has no intention of moving back to Naija ever. I always hope that I will be back home at some point in my life. He wanted me to move to his State but me London girl couldn't see myself adjusting so easily. I wanted him to come here for a bit then maybe we move to his State later. The whole thing kept dragging, the more we talked the less convinced I was about a future with him. I mean how could I claim to love a guy so much but not be ready to relocate for him? I guess I felt he also should show me his love by relocating for me. So he agreed. He agreed to come to Naija once more on holiday and decide carefully whether he will be able to move back home. By 3 days into our holiday, I was 100% sure that it won't work out for us. He wasn't even happy to be home spending his holiday there talk less of moving back permanently. I knew if I held on because of love I would inevitably be unhappy as well. So I called it off. Woke up and said it is over. I didn't want him to convince me otherwise.
Till today I can't believe I could be such a b*tch. I mean I could have waited for him to return to his State before breaking up. It was wrong and thoughtless. Karma is the real b*tch because the guy I dated after him is probably the biggest Frog I have ever met. That would be a story for another day. So Dundee guy happy now? I have finally given kudos to the one Good Guy I met in my life. Well actually my ex was the second Good guy and we are actually good friends now. But I'm wrong it means there are now 3 Good guys I have known and I am now dating one of them :-))
I met Good Guy at his parents house in Lagos over xmas. He had not been home in over a decade. They were having a celebratory/ welcome home party for him and his brother. I felt an immediate shyness when I got into their house as the last time we ever saw I was still wearing those cute Cinderella dresses lol. He had brothers my age so I use to play with them and always looked at him as much older. Now things had changed. I was now a woman and certainly more confident to talk to any guy however old. He served my family food and drinks then sat next to me to catch up on all the years. We spoke for what seemed like forever and decided to keep in touch via email. We took a few pictures with our families and said our good byes.
I got home and started having mixed feelings cause though I had a boyfriend at the time, it had not been working out. I mean I had just found out a few months before xmas that my boyfriend had been cheating on me with the same girl for what seemed like forever! He did the whole crying and pleading and before I knew it I decided to give him another chance. I guess I felt I pushed him to this other woman. I blamed myself for so long and just thought I could patch things up. Maybe I wasn't loving him enough, maybe I was too stubborn, uncontrollable but at the bottom of it all I couldn't believe the betrayal. (That being said, he alone would know the real reasons, for starters it coudl simply be he had fallen out of love with me and didn't know how to say so). I got back to London and 2 weeks after my return, Good guy sends an email. This was the beginning of a new friendship. He also had a girlfriend and they also were having serious issues. As God would have it be, the girl who my boyfriend was cheating with decided it was time to let the cat out. She actually came up to me at a club and said to my face I am still with your guy. Of cause I knew that was the end of my relationship.
2 months after my painful break up, Good guy informed me that he also needed a new start. He had called it off with his girl so we were both officially single. I flew to meet him in his State and that was the start of our long distance relationship. For the next 8 months this guy and I were at it full on. Never a day passed that I won't hear from him. In fact I was sure we both won't sleep well if we didn't speak at least once a day. I never had to worry when the next phone call would be, never had a doubt about his loyalty to me. Gosh Good guy spoilt me senseless. We flew back and forth each month so it never felt like there was any real distance. Thank God for Web cams as I remember spending nearly my whole weekends glued to my PC.
Then the cracks started happening around the 7th month. It was clear we were inseparable but now decision on what we wanted for our future started to vary. He has no intention of moving back to Naija ever. I always hope that I will be back home at some point in my life. He wanted me to move to his State but me London girl couldn't see myself adjusting so easily. I wanted him to come here for a bit then maybe we move to his State later. The whole thing kept dragging, the more we talked the less convinced I was about a future with him. I mean how could I claim to love a guy so much but not be ready to relocate for him? I guess I felt he also should show me his love by relocating for me. So he agreed. He agreed to come to Naija once more on holiday and decide carefully whether he will be able to move back home. By 3 days into our holiday, I was 100% sure that it won't work out for us. He wasn't even happy to be home spending his holiday there talk less of moving back permanently. I knew if I held on because of love I would inevitably be unhappy as well. So I called it off. Woke up and said it is over. I didn't want him to convince me otherwise.
Till today I can't believe I could be such a b*tch. I mean I could have waited for him to return to his State before breaking up. It was wrong and thoughtless. Karma is the real b*tch because the guy I dated after him is probably the biggest Frog I have ever met. That would be a story for another day. So Dundee guy happy now? I have finally given kudos to the one Good Guy I met in my life. Well actually my ex was the second Good guy and we are actually good friends now. But I'm wrong it means there are now 3 Good guys I have known and I am now dating one of them :-))
Tuesday, 8 April 2008
I Love that Booty Guy
Today might as well be Monday because I feel the same way I did yesterday which is "I would rather be in bed". The only problem is my central heating decided it was time to go nuts and British Gas sent some incompetent Engineer 3 times now who is no closer to resolving the issue. Funny thing is you will think the service they are offering is free since all they can say is "Bare with us, we are ordering one part after another". Hisssssssss. O well thank goodness for portable heaters but damn those things run up electricity bill sha. It's always billssss. Ok on a bright note, I am very well, I am full of hope, and I am just grateful that the sun still shines even with the dreadful cold out there...........
My weekend was actually not half bad. Friday went over to spend the weekend with an old female friend of mine. After much gist, had an early night so woke up Saturday to more gist (I love my girlfriends, it's always refreshing talking about anything with them). Then we set out to a baby shower that was so much fun I was pleased I attended. But the highlight of it all was a wedding I attended. For all yea Yoruba people, you will understand when I say it was a proper o-wam-be party, for all the Faji Mama's and Papa's in town. Of cos you had the young ones lurking around doing their best to look too cool for the cold. It was freezing that nite but thankfully it was held in a very gorgeous hall. My girl and I step into the hall and the eyes that met us were so frightening I decided not to make any eye contact.
I mean guys had shades on, big chains on, colourful suits on, funny hair styles on, funny accents on, funny shoes on, in short it was a show I had not seen in a long ass while. Perhaps I wanted to drop and laugh at the sight of many but of cos that would be awfully rude. Granted there were decently dressed people as well and the Bride and Groom looked gorgeous so that's all that really matters. As I wasn't actually invited for this wedding I kept pleading with my girl to do quick and let's fade. We were there to pick up her cousin and head to another occasion but that wasn't happening as fast as I had anticipated. The cousin introduced us to some friends of hers. Most of them had babies at home and they were just out having a good time. One lady stood out with a big rock on her finger. I was still admiring it when she goes, o yeah I just got engaged, bla bla, Congratsss is all I could say and took my eyes off. The cousin pointed out who the husband to be was and I just smiled.
That smile became a very big frown about 10 minutes after that. I was backing the entrance door talking to my girl when a guy comes directly into my face with alcohol breathe and starts complementing my ass! He was so excited about it and kept walking in a circle around me to check me out. Okkkkk I would have been slightly flattered if not for the shock I was going through. This was "Big Rock, I am just engaged" woman's fiance! As in the dude they just showed me is her husband to be! Come on! He kept asking for my number and I kept giving him a sarcastic laugh (me being polite). Finally my male cousin came to my rescue and dude bounces off. I was so disgusted and felt sorry for the "Big Rock" lady. I mean no rock can make me happy to see my husband publicly checking another girl's ass now?
To quickly answer the Blogger called Lekan who left a comment on my last post, I do not have any recommendations for guys. I do however feel very sorry for them. Only if a man is deaf,dumb, or just a nuisance does he not know right from wrong. Every situation is about choices. Ok this guy at wedding had his fiance there and was still out to play! How exactly am I to advise him? "Amala guy" had a pregnant girlfriend (unknown to me and so many others),and was still chasing me with his cheapness, making a fool of himself. Pls Lekan what advise do we give him? "Church guy" thought it was sleek to use his spirituality to mislead women and deceive the lady who is now his wife. Pls what advise do I give? "Wales guy" thought it would be fun to play 2 ladies and justify it as "I am just exploring the two of you to make a decision". So you see Lekan in all my post these men are well aware of Right and Wrong. Let them make the choice. I decided to humour myself and others by starting this blog and so shall it be.
My weekend was actually not half bad. Friday went over to spend the weekend with an old female friend of mine. After much gist, had an early night so woke up Saturday to more gist (I love my girlfriends, it's always refreshing talking about anything with them). Then we set out to a baby shower that was so much fun I was pleased I attended. But the highlight of it all was a wedding I attended. For all yea Yoruba people, you will understand when I say it was a proper o-wam-be party, for all the Faji Mama's and Papa's in town. Of cos you had the young ones lurking around doing their best to look too cool for the cold. It was freezing that nite but thankfully it was held in a very gorgeous hall. My girl and I step into the hall and the eyes that met us were so frightening I decided not to make any eye contact.
I mean guys had shades on, big chains on, colourful suits on, funny hair styles on, funny accents on, funny shoes on, in short it was a show I had not seen in a long ass while. Perhaps I wanted to drop and laugh at the sight of many but of cos that would be awfully rude. Granted there were decently dressed people as well and the Bride and Groom looked gorgeous so that's all that really matters. As I wasn't actually invited for this wedding I kept pleading with my girl to do quick and let's fade. We were there to pick up her cousin and head to another occasion but that wasn't happening as fast as I had anticipated. The cousin introduced us to some friends of hers. Most of them had babies at home and they were just out having a good time. One lady stood out with a big rock on her finger. I was still admiring it when she goes, o yeah I just got engaged, bla bla, Congratsss is all I could say and took my eyes off. The cousin pointed out who the husband to be was and I just smiled.
That smile became a very big frown about 10 minutes after that. I was backing the entrance door talking to my girl when a guy comes directly into my face with alcohol breathe and starts complementing my ass! He was so excited about it and kept walking in a circle around me to check me out. Okkkkk I would have been slightly flattered if not for the shock I was going through. This was "Big Rock, I am just engaged" woman's fiance! As in the dude they just showed me is her husband to be! Come on! He kept asking for my number and I kept giving him a sarcastic laugh (me being polite). Finally my male cousin came to my rescue and dude bounces off. I was so disgusted and felt sorry for the "Big Rock" lady. I mean no rock can make me happy to see my husband publicly checking another girl's ass now?
To quickly answer the Blogger called Lekan who left a comment on my last post, I do not have any recommendations for guys. I do however feel very sorry for them. Only if a man is deaf,dumb, or just a nuisance does he not know right from wrong. Every situation is about choices. Ok this guy at wedding had his fiance there and was still out to play! How exactly am I to advise him? "Amala guy" had a pregnant girlfriend (unknown to me and so many others),and was still chasing me with his cheapness, making a fool of himself. Pls Lekan what advise do we give him? "Church guy" thought it was sleek to use his spirituality to mislead women and deceive the lady who is now his wife. Pls what advise do I give? "Wales guy" thought it would be fun to play 2 ladies and justify it as "I am just exploring the two of you to make a decision". So you see Lekan in all my post these men are well aware of Right and Wrong. Let them make the choice. I decided to humour myself and others by starting this blog and so shall it be.
Thursday, 3 April 2008
Waiting For a Star to Fall
How's everyone doing? Hope great! Well the week is finally coming to an end and I think it went by really quickly. Wish my outstanding bills would be paid really quickly as well. Wish I could gather all owed money from last year and use it to sort out these bills. But when the likes of "Somebody Else's guy aka Cry baby guy" have decided it's best to act a fool and just not pay back I am left pondering on how I ever called him a Star? I must have been feeling like a generous monkey last year as I also loaned a guy from a group called JJC and 419 Squad money lol lol. Like a friend said, I heard the name of the group and still thought he will pay back? LOLLL.
He is on a solo career making good looking videos but cannot pay me back. I also called him a Star? In his own case I felt sorry for him and I admired his courage to still keep trying to break the Naija music industry when all else was failing for him. Well he is up for one award or another so why not pay back? Guess I'm moaning cos my expenses keep growing and taxes don't seem to be dropping any time soon. So even though I earn well I'm still shocked at how fast money disappears! Ahhh well enough about my worries, the Lord will take care of my tomorrow so it's all good. Truth be told I know I am mightily blessed and it is only a matter of time before I won't have to worry about bills any more, Amen!
Tell me, does a Star have to stop shining at some point? Is it inevitable? Or is it whoever has the magic cloth to rub the star back to life that wins? I mean here I am surrounded by friends who are feeling so in love now and some even feel the love is too much and fear the men are too good for them. Whoaaa that's so beautiful, I'm actually entering a phase where no one is calling men frogs any more? Or maybe it's with age. Perhaps we get older and start tolerating more, accepting more, or if I want to be negative I'll say perhaps we start compromising more for what we justify as right reasons, taking excuses more no matter how foolish the men sound. I really don't know but I must say I feel more relaxed knowing that friends are going through the love feeling. I pray they never have to cry as hard as some of us have, I pray they have left a cushion to fall back on if it all fails. I will keep trying to be an optimist because I have no choice in the matter.
Now I have a Star and he shines on so gracefully. I can only pray he keeps shining. I have no say about tomorrow. I can only live for today and hope for the best. I'm to meet old friends this weekend so lets see what sort of stories I hear. So in the spirit of optimism lets all have a good fun weekend I hope :-)
He is on a solo career making good looking videos but cannot pay me back. I also called him a Star? In his own case I felt sorry for him and I admired his courage to still keep trying to break the Naija music industry when all else was failing for him. Well he is up for one award or another so why not pay back? Guess I'm moaning cos my expenses keep growing and taxes don't seem to be dropping any time soon. So even though I earn well I'm still shocked at how fast money disappears! Ahhh well enough about my worries, the Lord will take care of my tomorrow so it's all good. Truth be told I know I am mightily blessed and it is only a matter of time before I won't have to worry about bills any more, Amen!
Tell me, does a Star have to stop shining at some point? Is it inevitable? Or is it whoever has the magic cloth to rub the star back to life that wins? I mean here I am surrounded by friends who are feeling so in love now and some even feel the love is too much and fear the men are too good for them. Whoaaa that's so beautiful, I'm actually entering a phase where no one is calling men frogs any more? Or maybe it's with age. Perhaps we get older and start tolerating more, accepting more, or if I want to be negative I'll say perhaps we start compromising more for what we justify as right reasons, taking excuses more no matter how foolish the men sound. I really don't know but I must say I feel more relaxed knowing that friends are going through the love feeling. I pray they never have to cry as hard as some of us have, I pray they have left a cushion to fall back on if it all fails. I will keep trying to be an optimist because I have no choice in the matter.
Now I have a Star and he shines on so gracefully. I can only pray he keeps shining. I have no say about tomorrow. I can only live for today and hope for the best. I'm to meet old friends this weekend so lets see what sort of stories I hear. So in the spirit of optimism lets all have a good fun weekend I hope :-)
Saturday, 29 March 2008
Same Script Different Cast
Men you bloggers make writing so fun and fulfilling! Thank you so much for all your love and support. Sometimes I feel my life is some sort of reality TV show lol. The weekend started on a fantastic level! I went for Festival of Life. For those who know about it I'm sure they can testify that you get so refreshed after the anointing is poured on you. It is a Night vigil event where Christians from all over the UK come and celebrate God and life. It's a time to reflect, a time to heal and a time to grow. I feel strengthened and I am confident that the Lord's strength will see me through the inevitable roller coaster of life.
I want to give a shout out to the writer behind www.bridesville.blogspot.com. Thanks to the Anon who pointed me there. I hope she gets to read my blog as well. I pray you will laugh so hard at some of my past stories (that's if you are not already a reader). All I can say is reading your blog made me realise that as humans when we are going through certain hurts or disappointments, it's the same exact feeling that overwhelms the best of us. I mean girl your description of how alone you felt after you realised your man was gone and never to return just totally gave me the shivers because I sure have been there 1 too many times. Therefore I urge all females to always take the deepest breathe ever when they are going through Male issues and look out to the world to see how others are coping because you might just get comfort from another story you hear. You are never alone! The Joy of the Lord will forever remain your strength so please lets endeavour to keep that joy burning.
I use to joke that men had a school they graduate from where they teach them the ways to become either a God fearing Man or just a mere Frog. It is clear that from that school they are handed out 2 dissertation choices either write about how you want to make your life count, how to respect fellow human beings, how to love with patience and be rewarded, or write about how being a player is the best feeling in the world, how to brag to your male counterparts after every conquest of the female specie, etc. So you see it's always a Choice! Now I know that when a man makes the decision to love he can almost immediately make the decision to revoke the love. Vice-versa for women to but since I am not here to criticise females I'll just hope we also check ourselves before placing blame on the men alone.
I mean anytime I replay "Cry Baby Guy" in my head, I can't stop laughing because even when I found out he had a deceptive story I still carried on the lala dream. "Phone girl" was made to look like a lunatic and I was happy to belief in the lies not even bothering myself that he probably was calling me a lunatic to her as well. It's the same story they cook up for each female but it's always a different girl in the picture frame. Guess sometimes you spice up one story for a slight variation but that's it really. But of cause I must hold on to the strong belief that not all men are frogs :-)) , I hope so! Anyway since I'm having an awfully late start to my day I best be off. Have a blessed weekend all.
I want to give a shout out to the writer behind www.bridesville.blogspot.com. Thanks to the Anon who pointed me there. I hope she gets to read my blog as well. I pray you will laugh so hard at some of my past stories (that's if you are not already a reader). All I can say is reading your blog made me realise that as humans when we are going through certain hurts or disappointments, it's the same exact feeling that overwhelms the best of us. I mean girl your description of how alone you felt after you realised your man was gone and never to return just totally gave me the shivers because I sure have been there 1 too many times. Therefore I urge all females to always take the deepest breathe ever when they are going through Male issues and look out to the world to see how others are coping because you might just get comfort from another story you hear. You are never alone! The Joy of the Lord will forever remain your strength so please lets endeavour to keep that joy burning.
I use to joke that men had a school they graduate from where they teach them the ways to become either a God fearing Man or just a mere Frog. It is clear that from that school they are handed out 2 dissertation choices either write about how you want to make your life count, how to respect fellow human beings, how to love with patience and be rewarded, or write about how being a player is the best feeling in the world, how to brag to your male counterparts after every conquest of the female specie, etc. So you see it's always a Choice! Now I know that when a man makes the decision to love he can almost immediately make the decision to revoke the love. Vice-versa for women to but since I am not here to criticise females I'll just hope we also check ourselves before placing blame on the men alone.
I mean anytime I replay "Cry Baby Guy" in my head, I can't stop laughing because even when I found out he had a deceptive story I still carried on the lala dream. "Phone girl" was made to look like a lunatic and I was happy to belief in the lies not even bothering myself that he probably was calling me a lunatic to her as well. It's the same story they cook up for each female but it's always a different girl in the picture frame. Guess sometimes you spice up one story for a slight variation but that's it really. But of cause I must hold on to the strong belief that not all men are frogs :-)) , I hope so! Anyway since I'm having an awfully late start to my day I best be off. Have a blessed weekend all.
Tuesday, 25 March 2008
To be or Not to be?
Hallo hallo, so most of us except those in the States and wherever else would just be returning from a very long weekend break thanks to Easter. I'm not feeling as refreshed as I ought to be cause of certain female monthly issues (awful), and some other personal matters. Anyway all in all I'm glad I woke up in one piece and though it's freezing outside, the sun still manages to shine as a reminder that the Lord is shining down on us all.
On my way to work I decided to do the ritual of putting on my ipod. I stumbled on Lauryn Hill, the album, The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill. I always knew it was great for her to win so many Grammy's back in the days but today I really appreciated why she did. In her song "Forgive them Father", she mentioned a very valuable point........."Men who lack conscience will always lie to themselves but worst of is that they go on and lie to God too, therefore why won't they lie to us women?"
Whoaaa I just felt my brain pause when I heard those words. Now I can finally begin to just accept that the world is what it is and one can only look out for Number 1 which in this case is me, is you, and whoever else. You can't vouch for anyone really well I can't. A friend of mine met a guy at a club a few years back. They danced, drank, had a good laugh and finally exchanged numbers. As she was just getting over a hurtful break up she decided to really take her time with this dude. It was even easier for her to take as much time as she wanted because they were not living in the same town. They will meet up occasionally and hang out all in the name of getting to know each other better.
After many months my female friend decided it was time for her to start visiting him at home. He lived alone but had the occasional male friends sleep over as he had a spare room. He will drive her around town, take her wherever she requested in short she was unsuspecting of anything. On one faithful day, this guy came to get her from the station but this time he took her to another house. She asked whose house it was and he replied his family home. When they arrived she saw him trying to block the mantel piece with his body. He was acting very odd. She decided to excuse herself from the living room and head to the bathroom. Unbeknown to him my friend caught a glimpse of the picture as they walked into the house! It was him, a woman and a child in the frame! She sat in the bathroom for what seemed like forever pondering on what the picture was and wondering why he chose to block it off by standing in front of it and refusing to sit down.
Finally she came to the realisation that this man with no conscience had brought her to his marital home!!!! She decided to walk straight back to the living room to confront him. There was no need the picture was gone! He had cleared the mantel piece before she got back. She was in so much shock that she decided it was best for her to shut up and politely asked to be dropped off at the station. When they got there, this 10 time loser got on his knees crying, pleading with her that he knows she must have seen the picture/s but that it is to be his future ex-wife. Yep bloggers "Future ex-wife". That there was no point telling her about him being married because he is going to ask for a divorce. Lord please stop me from laughing lol lol lol. My friend looked at this man in disgust and told him in a stern voice never to dial her number again, never look in her direction again, in short erase their memories because it will only damage him further.
Of cos it took him time to understand her message/advise but he finally got it. Well for those curious, the wife never found out and she went on to have more kids for her loving hubbie. My girl is doing great in her life as God has blessed her bountifully. So tell me where was it written that it is mandatory for a man to get married? This life is all about Choices the problem as Lauryn Hill has pointed out is so many lack a conscience so we just Have to forgive them! because our father in Heaven forgives us so easily.
This picture keeps coming to mind, a suspecting or unsuspecting wife sits at home with her newly born child waiting day and night for her husband to return home. In some cases they do come home in other cases you cry yourself to sleep and hold the child even tighter because you not sure what you have done to deserve it? Hmmmmm............
On my way to work I decided to do the ritual of putting on my ipod. I stumbled on Lauryn Hill, the album, The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill. I always knew it was great for her to win so many Grammy's back in the days but today I really appreciated why she did. In her song "Forgive them Father", she mentioned a very valuable point........."Men who lack conscience will always lie to themselves but worst of is that they go on and lie to God too, therefore why won't they lie to us women?"
Whoaaa I just felt my brain pause when I heard those words. Now I can finally begin to just accept that the world is what it is and one can only look out for Number 1 which in this case is me, is you, and whoever else. You can't vouch for anyone really well I can't. A friend of mine met a guy at a club a few years back. They danced, drank, had a good laugh and finally exchanged numbers. As she was just getting over a hurtful break up she decided to really take her time with this dude. It was even easier for her to take as much time as she wanted because they were not living in the same town. They will meet up occasionally and hang out all in the name of getting to know each other better.
After many months my female friend decided it was time for her to start visiting him at home. He lived alone but had the occasional male friends sleep over as he had a spare room. He will drive her around town, take her wherever she requested in short she was unsuspecting of anything. On one faithful day, this guy came to get her from the station but this time he took her to another house. She asked whose house it was and he replied his family home. When they arrived she saw him trying to block the mantel piece with his body. He was acting very odd. She decided to excuse herself from the living room and head to the bathroom. Unbeknown to him my friend caught a glimpse of the picture as they walked into the house! It was him, a woman and a child in the frame! She sat in the bathroom for what seemed like forever pondering on what the picture was and wondering why he chose to block it off by standing in front of it and refusing to sit down.
Finally she came to the realisation that this man with no conscience had brought her to his marital home!!!! She decided to walk straight back to the living room to confront him. There was no need the picture was gone! He had cleared the mantel piece before she got back. She was in so much shock that she decided it was best for her to shut up and politely asked to be dropped off at the station. When they got there, this 10 time loser got on his knees crying, pleading with her that he knows she must have seen the picture/s but that it is to be his future ex-wife. Yep bloggers "Future ex-wife". That there was no point telling her about him being married because he is going to ask for a divorce. Lord please stop me from laughing lol lol lol. My friend looked at this man in disgust and told him in a stern voice never to dial her number again, never look in her direction again, in short erase their memories because it will only damage him further.
Of cos it took him time to understand her message/advise but he finally got it. Well for those curious, the wife never found out and she went on to have more kids for her loving hubbie. My girl is doing great in her life as God has blessed her bountifully. So tell me where was it written that it is mandatory for a man to get married? This life is all about Choices the problem as Lauryn Hill has pointed out is so many lack a conscience so we just Have to forgive them! because our father in Heaven forgives us so easily.
This picture keeps coming to mind, a suspecting or unsuspecting wife sits at home with her newly born child waiting day and night for her husband to return home. In some cases they do come home in other cases you cry yourself to sleep and hold the child even tighter because you not sure what you have done to deserve it? Hmmmmm............
Sunday, 23 March 2008
When Does It end?
I can just see some bloggers reaction right now saying.........O MY GOSH SHE IS BACK! Well yeah I'm sort of back but not sure for how long this time. I must say there are times I really wanted to write but I just didn't seem to have the luxury of time any more. At least I'm pleased to say it is for a good cause which is focusing on my relationship and trying hard to learn that sometimes getting criticised and blunt views is the only way to really shake up and grow. I'm having a good ride so far and as always we can only Hope for the best.
Well well well, Amala guy (aka Big Belle Daddy) from a previous post, called me ystday after such a long ass while. Seeing as I didn't have his number any more I was a bit apprehensive about picking a strange number. He finally announced himself as Amala guy and I was shocked cause our last conversation certainly didn't go down well with him. Said he stumbled on my number and thought it would be nice to catch up with me. He gave me a progress report on his new life and how well things are going for him.
Unfortunately this son of a gun forgot to mention that just a month or so ago, his wife-to-be gave birth to a child, a boy! Yes this real low life actually had a pregnant fiance who lived separate from him whilst he was trying to get with me! I mean this character went as far as writing me a long ass essay about how he always felt we were meant to be together. How he really thought he had found his future in me, Marriage! Arrrhhhhhhhhhh I'm so so sick of this. There I was thinking perhaps I'm being to harsh on him, I mean dude you couldn't financially afford me not to talk of a marital life. But now it makes more sense. You were saving for your future wife. Well Congrats to you and the lady. I couldn't careless what your explanation would be for this deceit and foolishness. We serve a forgiving God is the only reason why I can't be bothered with your sorry ass. Good luck and God bless!
When does it end? Does it ever end? When does a man stand up and call himself a MAN? I mean who are these Men???? This is already out of control and just getting worse daily. Are we not praying hard enuff? Or does God have another plan we can't yet foresee? You go clubbing it's married peeps with rings off, chatting anything and anyone that cares to listen! Some are lucky enuff to get a girl back to their "Bachelor Pads", yeah they keep it even after marriage so that their "smallies" aka Mistresses can hang out there with them till they can face going home to tell more lies to their sometimes lovely wives or other times not so lovely lol lol. Ahh well.
Let me say this very clearly, just because last year I chose to sometimes publish some foolish comments or did not react to those low lives that were playing Inspector Stupidity sending me hate emails and what not, does not not mean I will even read talkless of publish any bullocks this year. I mean it's not rocket science to know who I am, duhhhhhhh so stop acting as though I set out to be some mysterious blonde with no purpose in life. I thank God for where I am now and where I am heading. Sorry to those males who feel women have done worse to them please feel free to blog about this. I mean I can't imagine what else you will put in the blog other than: Ooo she cheated on me, OOO she loves money, OOO she still cheated on me, yesssss we have heard! The stories are always the same so hey tell us something new.
Anyhoo, I met a bunch of girls who are keen on sharing a tale or two. Once I gather the contents, I'll do a write up and you can all contribute via leaving Comments as u have always done so diligently lol lol. Remember if you have a tale to share do feel free to email it to otokunbo@yahoo.co.uk
Well well well, Amala guy (aka Big Belle Daddy) from a previous post, called me ystday after such a long ass while. Seeing as I didn't have his number any more I was a bit apprehensive about picking a strange number. He finally announced himself as Amala guy and I was shocked cause our last conversation certainly didn't go down well with him. Said he stumbled on my number and thought it would be nice to catch up with me. He gave me a progress report on his new life and how well things are going for him.
Unfortunately this son of a gun forgot to mention that just a month or so ago, his wife-to-be gave birth to a child, a boy! Yes this real low life actually had a pregnant fiance who lived separate from him whilst he was trying to get with me! I mean this character went as far as writing me a long ass essay about how he always felt we were meant to be together. How he really thought he had found his future in me, Marriage! Arrrhhhhhhhhhh I'm so so sick of this. There I was thinking perhaps I'm being to harsh on him, I mean dude you couldn't financially afford me not to talk of a marital life. But now it makes more sense. You were saving for your future wife. Well Congrats to you and the lady. I couldn't careless what your explanation would be for this deceit and foolishness. We serve a forgiving God is the only reason why I can't be bothered with your sorry ass. Good luck and God bless!
When does it end? Does it ever end? When does a man stand up and call himself a MAN? I mean who are these Men???? This is already out of control and just getting worse daily. Are we not praying hard enuff? Or does God have another plan we can't yet foresee? You go clubbing it's married peeps with rings off, chatting anything and anyone that cares to listen! Some are lucky enuff to get a girl back to their "Bachelor Pads", yeah they keep it even after marriage so that their "smallies" aka Mistresses can hang out there with them till they can face going home to tell more lies to their sometimes lovely wives or other times not so lovely lol lol. Ahh well.
Let me say this very clearly, just because last year I chose to sometimes publish some foolish comments or did not react to those low lives that were playing Inspector Stupidity sending me hate emails and what not, does not not mean I will even read talkless of publish any bullocks this year. I mean it's not rocket science to know who I am, duhhhhhhh so stop acting as though I set out to be some mysterious blonde with no purpose in life. I thank God for where I am now and where I am heading. Sorry to those males who feel women have done worse to them please feel free to blog about this. I mean I can't imagine what else you will put in the blog other than: Ooo she cheated on me, OOO she loves money, OOO she still cheated on me, yesssss we have heard! The stories are always the same so hey tell us something new.
Anyhoo, I met a bunch of girls who are keen on sharing a tale or two. Once I gather the contents, I'll do a write up and you can all contribute via leaving Comments as u have always done so diligently lol lol. Remember if you have a tale to share do feel free to email it to otokunbo@yahoo.co.uk
Thursday, 10 January 2008
A Year of Hope........
Happy New Year All!!! I hope you all had a fulfilling festive season like I did. I just read a comment from a Blogger who said they hoped I encountered 1 or 2 frogs on my holiday. I want to assume that was a typo error and you actually meant to say "hope you didn't encounter any frogs". Either way I couldn't have cos the bulk of my time was spent with the Prince I am building a relationship with.
Well I can't really complain about anything cos it's all still so fresh. One thing is for sure the chasing season is over so I'm now seeing the real him and so far it's been commendable. Guess you can say we are just concluding on Phase 1: The whole butterfly in tummy effect; not having to wonder when next he will call cos the dude will call you till it becomes the norm/the expected; the feeling that someone in the world is actually thinking about you as more than just a friend; the permanent smile cemented on your heart and only the glow on your face gives you away that you are truly, unmistakeably happy; the nobody in the world matters as much feeling cos this person just seems to understand every last word that you utter. In short that feeling of human comfort though nowhere as important as that from God still counts as a lot on days when your boss is just getting under your skin.
Looks like I'm now in Phase 2. We have now defined where we are heading with the relationship. This now interprets to: If I don't hear from him I get a bit jittery; missing him a bit more than before; the calls are not as frequent but now they are more meaningful and purposeful. It's a long distance relationship so emotionally it takes a bit more out of you than the usual. But what I'm enjoying the most right now is the feeling of trust and commitment. Seeing as we started off as friends, I notice we are a bit more sensitive to each other. Apologising for mistakes or upsetting the other person is not a problem at all. It's all about growth and facing the challenges that will inevitably come our way. God is in control. My prayer is he will never have to feature here as a frog lol.
Well I can't really complain about anything cos it's all still so fresh. One thing is for sure the chasing season is over so I'm now seeing the real him and so far it's been commendable. Guess you can say we are just concluding on Phase 1: The whole butterfly in tummy effect; not having to wonder when next he will call cos the dude will call you till it becomes the norm/the expected; the feeling that someone in the world is actually thinking about you as more than just a friend; the permanent smile cemented on your heart and only the glow on your face gives you away that you are truly, unmistakeably happy; the nobody in the world matters as much feeling cos this person just seems to understand every last word that you utter. In short that feeling of human comfort though nowhere as important as that from God still counts as a lot on days when your boss is just getting under your skin.
Looks like I'm now in Phase 2. We have now defined where we are heading with the relationship. This now interprets to: If I don't hear from him I get a bit jittery; missing him a bit more than before; the calls are not as frequent but now they are more meaningful and purposeful. It's a long distance relationship so emotionally it takes a bit more out of you than the usual. But what I'm enjoying the most right now is the feeling of trust and commitment. Seeing as we started off as friends, I notice we are a bit more sensitive to each other. Apologising for mistakes or upsetting the other person is not a problem at all. It's all about growth and facing the challenges that will inevitably come our way. God is in control. My prayer is he will never have to feature here as a frog lol.
If any reader wants to share a Frog tale and would like me to publish it on their behalf, please feel free to write to otokunbo@yahoo.co.uk Remember there is love in sharing. The power of laughter should not be taken lightly and you never know whose life you might be touching with your tale.
Congrats to all my friends who got married this xmas. I pray the marriage will be as fun as the actual wedding day was. It shall be filled with peace, love and hope.Tuesday, 11 December 2007
The Best Things in Life are Free.......
I forget how tiring the festive season can be especially when I have to start cracking my head for what gifts to get my loved ones. It's been a busy but fantastic last 1 month for me. I have gained a valuable friend and I can't thank him enough for returning laughter into my life. I tell people all the time that I hardly come across peeps that make me laugh, well this guy sure does and with so much ease as if he were designed to just always make sure I have at least a smile. His genuine heart is reminiscent of someone that was once dear to me and now I know how to embrace it better rather than be pessimistic about it. I am very appreciative of him and the free gift he brought back into my life. He has left a refreshingly pleasant song in my world and my prayer is that I will be dancing to this new tune for as long as the Lord will permit.
Sometimes we meet people and start to wonder why we even allowed any sort of frog to breathe near us let alone speak. But hey our stories will always differ so no need questioning one's self on why it is only you that keeps meeting one frog or the other. I have so much positive things going for me and perhaps that's where I find the strength to laugh at the comedy that some of those frogs brought my way. Ooo before I forget, congrats to "Church guy" who apparently just tied the knot. May God bless that union and I can only pray you have genuinely resolved your issues. If not, God knows best.
I am ending the year on a high and I can only pray this will be the story for all. If not don't despair cos if you look hard enough you will still see the light shining at the end of the tunnel. It has been a wonderful year and I am looking forward to what lies ahead. Thanks to all for taking time out to share in my stories and the stories of others I wrote about. Which reminds me, a male friend of mine asked me to be an agony aunt for him. Basically he started dating a girl a year ago and just like most relationships they had their down moments where he wasn't so sure they belonged together. On one of those occasions when things were not so bright for them, he started talking to an old friend who is a female and she informed him that she was single and had the hots for him. They started talking more even though he had told her about his girlfriend but this old female friend didn't seem to care much for that.
The old female friend insisted on coming down to spend the weekend with him as she is based far away from him. Well his girlfriend is also far far away so he thought what the heck, no harm done by letting her come down. The weekend ended on a cool and exciting note for him but a week later his actual girlfriend and him made up and he started feeling bad about hosting this other female. Stylishly he began to reduce his phone calls with the aim of trying to disappear fully from that scene. Unfortunately for him, the other girl was already hooked and she sure wasn't ready to let him go. Well now she has asked to spend the festive season with him and because he conveniently hasn't told her that he has made up with his girlfriend, she expects him to be over the moon about them spending the time together. The thing is his girlfriend will be out of town during this season but he says his guilt is already consuming him so he refuses to carry on seeing or speaking to this girl on the side.
Although the truth will set you free it doesn't mean that those involved won't get hurt. Ahh well he knows what needs to be done so I really don't need to say anything. Guess sometimes we get side tracked in life but it's how you get back on your track that matters. Some people never get back and carry on living foolishly.
Have a Lovely and Prosperous festive season...........
Sometimes we meet people and start to wonder why we even allowed any sort of frog to breathe near us let alone speak. But hey our stories will always differ so no need questioning one's self on why it is only you that keeps meeting one frog or the other. I have so much positive things going for me and perhaps that's where I find the strength to laugh at the comedy that some of those frogs brought my way. Ooo before I forget, congrats to "Church guy" who apparently just tied the knot. May God bless that union and I can only pray you have genuinely resolved your issues. If not, God knows best.
I am ending the year on a high and I can only pray this will be the story for all. If not don't despair cos if you look hard enough you will still see the light shining at the end of the tunnel. It has been a wonderful year and I am looking forward to what lies ahead. Thanks to all for taking time out to share in my stories and the stories of others I wrote about. Which reminds me, a male friend of mine asked me to be an agony aunt for him. Basically he started dating a girl a year ago and just like most relationships they had their down moments where he wasn't so sure they belonged together. On one of those occasions when things were not so bright for them, he started talking to an old friend who is a female and she informed him that she was single and had the hots for him. They started talking more even though he had told her about his girlfriend but this old female friend didn't seem to care much for that.
The old female friend insisted on coming down to spend the weekend with him as she is based far away from him. Well his girlfriend is also far far away so he thought what the heck, no harm done by letting her come down. The weekend ended on a cool and exciting note for him but a week later his actual girlfriend and him made up and he started feeling bad about hosting this other female. Stylishly he began to reduce his phone calls with the aim of trying to disappear fully from that scene. Unfortunately for him, the other girl was already hooked and she sure wasn't ready to let him go. Well now she has asked to spend the festive season with him and because he conveniently hasn't told her that he has made up with his girlfriend, she expects him to be over the moon about them spending the time together. The thing is his girlfriend will be out of town during this season but he says his guilt is already consuming him so he refuses to carry on seeing or speaking to this girl on the side.
Although the truth will set you free it doesn't mean that those involved won't get hurt. Ahh well he knows what needs to be done so I really don't need to say anything. Guess sometimes we get side tracked in life but it's how you get back on your track that matters. Some people never get back and carry on living foolishly.
Have a Lovely and Prosperous festive season...........
Friday, 30 November 2007
Double lives Guy
I am yet to come across a Friday that makes me unhappy! Finally I can catch up on that much needed sleep as I got a bit of insomnia going on so I tend to look a hot mess on my daily journey to work. Anyhoo I made it to the theatre last nite. I am so proud of myself I actually convinced a Naija guy to take me to see a Show! I saw Footloose, rather childish but nonetheless entertaining. Apart from my Father who has seen Lion King 3 times, I don't know too many guys that are into theatre moves. Well guess u can say I am still at the honey moon stage where the guy will do his best to impress you. We even had dinner before the show so that was very cool as well. Thanks to those that recommended that Restaurant "Katana at the International", every bite of my food was just a delight!
Well today I stumbled upon an article in the Metro about a lady who stabbed her Lover's wife 43 times out of rage and jealousy that had been consuming her. The story was reminiscent of a colleague of mine just that my colleague thankfully didn't go and kill the other lady. I know love drives people to do all sorts of weird things but I start to question whether it was ever love to begin with? I'll use my colleagues story to explain what led to this lady becoming a murderer.
Natasha met her boyfriend 7 years ago at her then work place. They were both sales assistant in a store and even ended up attending the same University so they had more than enuff time to know about each other. They are Asians, as most will know it is not customary to be seen dating a guy but hey guess people find a way around these things. She was undeniably in love, and she felt her guy was on that same page too. Her parents had brought tonnes of men to see her for marriage but she refused saying she wanted to do a "Love marriage" as they call it. Her parents decided to give her a bit of space to explore that route.
Natasha and her man started making future plans. He promised her the world and she in turn promised him her all. They were inseparable until they both got city jobs and time became their biggest enemy. Their ritual of meeting each other after school became more of phone calls and sporadic meetings. Natasha started noticing a few changes in her man, the usual, "I'll call you back" and no call comes through or the "We should do something this wknd" but no dates come through. Out of love she ignored these little warnings and was holding on to the fact that she had known this guy for 7 years and they had been wonderful years for her.
What was about to happen one bright morning in the cold of November last year was something that would change her life and perception of men forever. Her man aka "Double lives guy" came to Natasha's house unannounced before she left for work. He knocked on her front door and luckily for him she was the one that opened. She quickly shut the door behind her asking him what he was doing there as her parents were at home. He started crying, and she just looked at him puzzled?
Double Lives Guy: Natasha there is something I need to tell you.
Natasha: What is it? I have never seen you cry you are scaring me!
Double Lives Guy: I am sooooo sorry, gosh what have I done? ...........I AM GETTING MARRIED TOMORROW.
Natasha: Plssss can you quit playing with me! I am not amused, I suggest you tell me what you really came here for?
Double Lives Guy: I swear on my mother's life, they forced me, I was forced, gosh I am so stupid, it is you I love. Butttt I have to marry this girl tomorrow. Ok ok why don't we run away?
Natasha: (Her knees are weak and she is about to pass out), Why r u saying all these things to me? This isn't you? You always said you will fight for us! Fight for love! No one can force you into anything so pls shut-up!
Double Lives Guy: Does this mean you won't consider running away with me?
Natasha: No I won't. I love my family very much, I have even told them about you and they said when you are ready you should bring your mother and family over to propose! So No I will not be running anywhere.
Double Lives Guy: In that case, I have no choice but to beg for your forgiveness and wish you well. Good bye Natasha, you were the best thing that ever happened to me.
...........and just like that he left! Natasha ran back into the house and screamed for her sisters to come down. They all wept with her on hearing this sad sad News. She didn't show up to work for 2 weeks or so and it was hard getting through to her. By the time she got back, she had dropped from a size 12 to a size 8! I was in shock! I also cried cos I could see the pain and confusion in her eyes. For days on end she will get up and run to the bathroom to cry. She is Muslim, I am Christian but at this point I just needed God to console her fully. I prayed for her / with her daily and a year later she has bounced back.
Natasha found out so many things. Double Lives Guy did indeed get married that day but it was not a forced marriage. Apparently he had been dating the other girl for 4 years! This wicked soul did not think it right to break up with Natasha. 7 years of her adult life gone like that. Ahhh well I'm happy she didn't marry him. Perhaps the signs were there and she refused to take hid but apparently the other lady he married is from another town and they don't have any mutual friends that might have raised alarm bells. The wife has now moved into London and Natasha spots her around town driving a luxurious car and looking hot and of cos she keeps thinking to herself perhaps I wasn't pretty enough, maybe he got irritated with my kindness (believe me this girl is too much like an Angel!)
In fact I am sure this is one of the few angels in this world! Her heart is so pure, when she speaks you can sense all the naivety in her. She sees only good in people..............It is because of people like her I feel sad for those blogggers who come here writing nothing significant and really thinking they have gotten a "point" across to me???? I laugh. I pray people find the strength to laugh more about their past and just get on with it and move on, Amen!
Well today I stumbled upon an article in the Metro about a lady who stabbed her Lover's wife 43 times out of rage and jealousy that had been consuming her. The story was reminiscent of a colleague of mine just that my colleague thankfully didn't go and kill the other lady. I know love drives people to do all sorts of weird things but I start to question whether it was ever love to begin with? I'll use my colleagues story to explain what led to this lady becoming a murderer.
Natasha met her boyfriend 7 years ago at her then work place. They were both sales assistant in a store and even ended up attending the same University so they had more than enuff time to know about each other. They are Asians, as most will know it is not customary to be seen dating a guy but hey guess people find a way around these things. She was undeniably in love, and she felt her guy was on that same page too. Her parents had brought tonnes of men to see her for marriage but she refused saying she wanted to do a "Love marriage" as they call it. Her parents decided to give her a bit of space to explore that route.
Natasha and her man started making future plans. He promised her the world and she in turn promised him her all. They were inseparable until they both got city jobs and time became their biggest enemy. Their ritual of meeting each other after school became more of phone calls and sporadic meetings. Natasha started noticing a few changes in her man, the usual, "I'll call you back" and no call comes through or the "We should do something this wknd" but no dates come through. Out of love she ignored these little warnings and was holding on to the fact that she had known this guy for 7 years and they had been wonderful years for her.
What was about to happen one bright morning in the cold of November last year was something that would change her life and perception of men forever. Her man aka "Double lives guy" came to Natasha's house unannounced before she left for work. He knocked on her front door and luckily for him she was the one that opened. She quickly shut the door behind her asking him what he was doing there as her parents were at home. He started crying, and she just looked at him puzzled?
Double Lives Guy: Natasha there is something I need to tell you.
Natasha: What is it? I have never seen you cry you are scaring me!
Double Lives Guy: I am sooooo sorry, gosh what have I done? ...........I AM GETTING MARRIED TOMORROW.
Natasha: Plssss can you quit playing with me! I am not amused, I suggest you tell me what you really came here for?
Double Lives Guy: I swear on my mother's life, they forced me, I was forced, gosh I am so stupid, it is you I love. Butttt I have to marry this girl tomorrow. Ok ok why don't we run away?
Natasha: (Her knees are weak and she is about to pass out), Why r u saying all these things to me? This isn't you? You always said you will fight for us! Fight for love! No one can force you into anything so pls shut-up!
Double Lives Guy: Does this mean you won't consider running away with me?
Natasha: No I won't. I love my family very much, I have even told them about you and they said when you are ready you should bring your mother and family over to propose! So No I will not be running anywhere.
Double Lives Guy: In that case, I have no choice but to beg for your forgiveness and wish you well. Good bye Natasha, you were the best thing that ever happened to me.
...........and just like that he left! Natasha ran back into the house and screamed for her sisters to come down. They all wept with her on hearing this sad sad News. She didn't show up to work for 2 weeks or so and it was hard getting through to her. By the time she got back, she had dropped from a size 12 to a size 8! I was in shock! I also cried cos I could see the pain and confusion in her eyes. For days on end she will get up and run to the bathroom to cry. She is Muslim, I am Christian but at this point I just needed God to console her fully. I prayed for her / with her daily and a year later she has bounced back.
Natasha found out so many things. Double Lives Guy did indeed get married that day but it was not a forced marriage. Apparently he had been dating the other girl for 4 years! This wicked soul did not think it right to break up with Natasha. 7 years of her adult life gone like that. Ahhh well I'm happy she didn't marry him. Perhaps the signs were there and she refused to take hid but apparently the other lady he married is from another town and they don't have any mutual friends that might have raised alarm bells. The wife has now moved into London and Natasha spots her around town driving a luxurious car and looking hot and of cos she keeps thinking to herself perhaps I wasn't pretty enough, maybe he got irritated with my kindness (believe me this girl is too much like an Angel!)
In fact I am sure this is one of the few angels in this world! Her heart is so pure, when she speaks you can sense all the naivety in her. She sees only good in people..............It is because of people like her I feel sad for those blogggers who come here writing nothing significant and really thinking they have gotten a "point" across to me???? I laugh. I pray people find the strength to laugh more about their past and just get on with it and move on, Amen!
Monday, 26 November 2007
Reflecting
Hi All, it's been a minute. I'm having one of those Monday's where having lunch will be the highlight of my day. Well guess I have been preoccupied getting to know a new guy but as always only time will tell. I am not looking for Mr Right, in fact that will be a bore but I am looking for Mr Realistic. The sort of guy that knows there is no perfect woman out there, the one that leaves room for mistakes to be made, the one that is big enuff to over look imperfections and work with the other great qualities the woman displays. Most importantly the sort of guy that has a forgiving heart and apologises when he knows he is wrong rather than try to justify the wrong, arhhhh that's just off putting. Forgot to mention, the one that just has to find the energy to wake up for Church! lollol.
I have gotten to a stage where I need a man to convince me why it is worth my time to be in a relationship. Day by day my realisation shows me that I have the propensity to be happy on my own. I mean it is always a bonus if someone wants to add to that happiness but it is damn irritating when they want to steal out of it and leave you hanging. It's like the same tired routine of wine, dine, cinema, more wine and dine but now you know better than to "let yourself go" with the guy. So you get to the crunch where it is either left or right, no middle ground and trust the guy to always come up with the lets stay in the middle approach aka I am still getting to know you. Yeah sure just like you getting to know how many others. I have no problem with this whole lets know each other stuff but you see me I am tired of knowing guys. I feel like just going to pull one out of the past. I know enuff about a few to know that I would have been happy with them if not for my then wandering heart.
I always felt there was more out there, even the ones that did their best to convince me we were meant to spend the rest of our lives with each other I just shied away. Now I'm not sure what I was looking for. Think I got greedy, I think cos I always felt I could get anyone I wanted I missed my boat. Now I want that boat to just turn back and let me hop on for the last time. I know better now and I am not scared to admit my wrongs. In fact its best I admit I was so wrong so as to avoid meeting mediocre men. What they don't understand is I have had way more than my fair share of Queen treatment. Why on earth would I now settle for average? Nah so long as there is youth in me I shall not just settle for the heck of it..........hopefully I won't have to.
To the Prince's I met, thanks for showing me how a princess should be treated cos at least now I have a standard I expect. A Prince once wrote to me:
Our Love…
An unthinkable event
You and me
Two wandering hearts
Once worlds apart
Even still
But now in tune
Though far apart
Each moment resides
Drenched in warm daydreams
Of what may come
We are blessed
In comfort of our connection
Our Love
A tad trying sometimes
Takes console
At every forward path
To reunite in awe
Of our overwhelming love
I have gotten to a stage where I need a man to convince me why it is worth my time to be in a relationship. Day by day my realisation shows me that I have the propensity to be happy on my own. I mean it is always a bonus if someone wants to add to that happiness but it is damn irritating when they want to steal out of it and leave you hanging. It's like the same tired routine of wine, dine, cinema, more wine and dine but now you know better than to "let yourself go" with the guy. So you get to the crunch where it is either left or right, no middle ground and trust the guy to always come up with the lets stay in the middle approach aka I am still getting to know you. Yeah sure just like you getting to know how many others. I have no problem with this whole lets know each other stuff but you see me I am tired of knowing guys. I feel like just going to pull one out of the past. I know enuff about a few to know that I would have been happy with them if not for my then wandering heart.
I always felt there was more out there, even the ones that did their best to convince me we were meant to spend the rest of our lives with each other I just shied away. Now I'm not sure what I was looking for. Think I got greedy, I think cos I always felt I could get anyone I wanted I missed my boat. Now I want that boat to just turn back and let me hop on for the last time. I know better now and I am not scared to admit my wrongs. In fact its best I admit I was so wrong so as to avoid meeting mediocre men. What they don't understand is I have had way more than my fair share of Queen treatment. Why on earth would I now settle for average? Nah so long as there is youth in me I shall not just settle for the heck of it..........hopefully I won't have to.
To the Prince's I met, thanks for showing me how a princess should be treated cos at least now I have a standard I expect. A Prince once wrote to me:
Our Love…
An unthinkable event
You and me
Two wandering hearts
Once worlds apart
Even still
But now in tune
Though far apart
Each moment resides
Drenched in warm daydreams
Of what may come
We are blessed
In comfort of our connection
Our Love
A tad trying sometimes
Takes console
At every forward path
To reunite in awe
Of our overwhelming love
Tuesday, 13 November 2007
Five Pounds Guy
I keep forgetting I can use my Blog to talk about anything really. Although that being said the Blog name is specific to the different frogs we have in town. O well, I had one of the most fun weekends ever this year for me. Friday, birthday party at some lovely Champagne bar and thankfully an old friend took me along so drinks were on him and the highlight was the duck and rice I organised after the bar. Damnnn thinking of it is making me really hungry! Saturday attended a Surprise party then headed for a Nov of Birthdays bash, lets just say I got so wasted that by the time my girl dropped me at home I realised I forgot my house keys in my sister's bag and she was still at the club! Anyway I have a sitting area just before u get into my main hse so I crashed there till she got home. Sunday, went to Church got madly uplifted then went for yet again another birthday gathering. Food was excessive and drinks overflowing but I just respected myself and stayed away from the alcohol. By Monday, I looked like a zombie (understandably) cos I sure hadn't slept enuff.
Today I feel a bit better but I'm getting mad butterflies in my tummy cos a special person is coming into town tomorrow and its going to be a turning point for us. However things turn out, this dude has certainly put Hope back in my life that there are still a few good men out there. Trust I'll be keeping you guys updated. As he is one of my biggest Blog fans, I expect he will do his best to stay well behaved or else he might just get a Post dedicated to him (Heaven forbid).
Ayt, my friend once told me a story I found rather hilarious and irritating all at once! Five pound guy is someone who troubled Eugena for a while. Tried his best to get her to go on just one date but she never agreed. Eugena for starters is a high-flying career babe who always has a suit case packed up cos she never knows what part of the world her job will take her to at any given time. So on this one occassion, Eugena was getting ready for one of her trips. She had called her cab and had about 5 hours to spare before her flight. Her phone rang and to her dismay it was Five pound guy.
Five pound guy asked if they could meet up for lunch that day and she told him she was on her way out of the country. He then told her to call off her cab and he will take her to the airport. Eugena was in one of her good moods (hard to find especially if she is talking to a guy) and she told him to get to hers in the next hour or else she'll just take her cab. He was ecstatic seeing as this for him would have been a one shot moment to leave an impression on her. Surprisingly he got to her house 40 mins after that call. Eugena was impressed as this dude leaves South of London and she lives in the North so according to her calculation he must have been speeding down. Anyway as they proceeded to the airport, the dude started teasing that hope she won't mind paying for his petrol since she was going to pay for a cab perhaps she can just transfer that money to the tank of his car!
Eugena gave him her "ugly look" and at that point she thought okkkk maybe this guy is so tensed he is cracking very dry jokes. They finally got to the airport in one piece and Five pound guy off loaded her bags and they checked her in. Eugena had 2 hours to spare before her flight so she offered to take him for lunch and she will pay. He seemed overly excited. He ordered as much as his tummy would allow him and spoke uncontrollably about nothing of significance. When they were done, Five pounds guy escorted Eugena to the Departure gate. As they were hugging and saying their final good bye, sumtin earth shaking happened.
Five pound guy: Eugena are u not forgetting something?
Eugena: (In her head she was thinking don't tell me he wants a kiss or what??), Five pound what did I forget?
Five pound guy: I can't believe you were about to get on the plane without giving me the money for the parking?
Eugena: R u having a dry joke moment again?
Five pound guy: Not at all, I think £5 should cover the parking.
Eugena: (In her head thinking God what have I done to deserve this act of mere embarrassment and cheapness!!), she gets her purse out and says, Five pound guy I only have £10 note on me.
Five pound guy: Ok give me the £10 I will give you your change when you get back from your trip.
Eugena: (In her head, Yesssuuusssss!!!!) That's ok, keep the change!
Five Pound guy: U r very kind thanks. Bye and have a safe trip.
LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL Rewindddddddddd, did I mention that due to Eugena's position at her work place, all her expenses are paid for? Meaning if she je-je-ly took her cab, the company would have paid for it! My poor friend was too embarrassed to share this story as the guy is 31 years old!!!! and to the best of her knowledge has an ok job. I mean where has the pride of men gone!!!! Goshhhh it's really irritating cos Heaven knows it is not about the money, it is about how this guy went about things! If you look at your wallet and u realise you cannot afford a "babe" then why aim to get her? Aim lower ja re!!!
Ok Blogville I hope this makes u laugh a little. Ooo by the way of cos Eugena deleted his number immediately and she has since then decided to just stick to her first instincts when it comes to guys. As we tend to forget "Jand is a leveller".............
Today I feel a bit better but I'm getting mad butterflies in my tummy cos a special person is coming into town tomorrow and its going to be a turning point for us. However things turn out, this dude has certainly put Hope back in my life that there are still a few good men out there. Trust I'll be keeping you guys updated. As he is one of my biggest Blog fans, I expect he will do his best to stay well behaved or else he might just get a Post dedicated to him (Heaven forbid).
Ayt, my friend once told me a story I found rather hilarious and irritating all at once! Five pound guy is someone who troubled Eugena for a while. Tried his best to get her to go on just one date but she never agreed. Eugena for starters is a high-flying career babe who always has a suit case packed up cos she never knows what part of the world her job will take her to at any given time. So on this one occassion, Eugena was getting ready for one of her trips. She had called her cab and had about 5 hours to spare before her flight. Her phone rang and to her dismay it was Five pound guy.
Five pound guy asked if they could meet up for lunch that day and she told him she was on her way out of the country. He then told her to call off her cab and he will take her to the airport. Eugena was in one of her good moods (hard to find especially if she is talking to a guy) and she told him to get to hers in the next hour or else she'll just take her cab. He was ecstatic seeing as this for him would have been a one shot moment to leave an impression on her. Surprisingly he got to her house 40 mins after that call. Eugena was impressed as this dude leaves South of London and she lives in the North so according to her calculation he must have been speeding down. Anyway as they proceeded to the airport, the dude started teasing that hope she won't mind paying for his petrol since she was going to pay for a cab perhaps she can just transfer that money to the tank of his car!
Eugena gave him her "ugly look" and at that point she thought okkkk maybe this guy is so tensed he is cracking very dry jokes. They finally got to the airport in one piece and Five pound guy off loaded her bags and they checked her in. Eugena had 2 hours to spare before her flight so she offered to take him for lunch and she will pay. He seemed overly excited. He ordered as much as his tummy would allow him and spoke uncontrollably about nothing of significance. When they were done, Five pounds guy escorted Eugena to the Departure gate. As they were hugging and saying their final good bye, sumtin earth shaking happened.
Five pound guy: Eugena are u not forgetting something?
Eugena: (In her head she was thinking don't tell me he wants a kiss or what??), Five pound what did I forget?
Five pound guy: I can't believe you were about to get on the plane without giving me the money for the parking?
Eugena: R u having a dry joke moment again?
Five pound guy: Not at all, I think £5 should cover the parking.
Eugena: (In her head thinking God what have I done to deserve this act of mere embarrassment and cheapness!!), she gets her purse out and says, Five pound guy I only have £10 note on me.
Five pound guy: Ok give me the £10 I will give you your change when you get back from your trip.
Eugena: (In her head, Yesssuuusssss!!!!) That's ok, keep the change!
Five Pound guy: U r very kind thanks. Bye and have a safe trip.
LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL Rewindddddddddd, did I mention that due to Eugena's position at her work place, all her expenses are paid for? Meaning if she je-je-ly took her cab, the company would have paid for it! My poor friend was too embarrassed to share this story as the guy is 31 years old!!!! and to the best of her knowledge has an ok job. I mean where has the pride of men gone!!!! Goshhhh it's really irritating cos Heaven knows it is not about the money, it is about how this guy went about things! If you look at your wallet and u realise you cannot afford a "babe" then why aim to get her? Aim lower ja re!!!
Ok Blogville I hope this makes u laugh a little. Ooo by the way of cos Eugena deleted his number immediately and she has since then decided to just stick to her first instincts when it comes to guys. As we tend to forget "Jand is a leveller".............
Wednesday, 7 November 2007
Leech Guy
Thank God it is Midweek. Think I'm getting the winter blues, waking up is now such a daily struggle. O well in everything I still give thanks for a good and healthy life. I haven't had time to gather other people's frog encounters but a friend of mine summarised one she just recently went through. Due to the fact that I wasn't involved in this tale, I will do my best to point out the unfortunate part to her tale.
Leech guy met Sharon at a party (very popular meeting place eh), and after a good nite of dancing and chatting they exchanged numbers. Sharon is in a school outside London while Leech Guy works in London. Over the course of many weeks, Leech use to come and visit Sharon, hang out with her friends and pretty much got very familiar with her environment. Sharon grew fond of him cos of all the time and effort he use to put into coming down to see her. Finally she agreed to become his girlfriend. She initially played it down because she wanted to watch their relationship for a bit rather than announce she has a man and in no time telling people it's over. After 2 months, she was still getting the butterfly effects in her tummy so she became proud of her man and was ready to shout it on the roof top that she was on an all time high.
Sharon started coming down to London to spend time with her man in an attempt to know his group of friends as well. She got along with most of them and at the time she didn't feel any threat to her relationship. Until one day she checked good old Facebook for the daily feed and saw that a girl had left a message that sounded a bit more than just a mere friend......"Miss u loads". Sharon decides to ask Leech who that is, of cos he played it down and said it was an old friend he went to high school with back in Naija. Not trying to be paranoid, she let any negative thought that was building go. Then the wall messages from this babe started increasing. Most times they were non harmful, daily rantings so she still chose to ignore it. Then the babe started sending him Facebook gifts and so Sharon asked once again who this babe was? Leech guy said ok fine, she is an ex-girlfriend of mine, our relationship finished in January but she insisted we remain friends. Now that she knows I have u, she is trying her hardest to get attention and cause trouble.
At this point Sharon was very uncomfortable and cos she was 6 months into the relationship she didn't find it easy following her instinct that sumtin nasty was cooking in that dude's kitchen! She went on holiday with friends, and thought to herself that will be a good time to reflect on her current predicament. I mean why should a girl be acting so "crazy" as Leech guy was tryna insinuate if the dude isn't encouraging it? She didn't want to be forward and start contacting the girl cos that would show that she had trust issues. Leech kept calling her during the holiday and reassured her about their relationship. He even sent money for her to do some clothes shopping for him. Sharon says her friends were always irritated with how much time she spent selecting things for this guy and it was biting into her holiday fun time. Just cos she wanted to make sure he was impressed with her selection. Her compensation was that she could spend a bit on herself as well and hey this was her boify after all so she did it wholeheartedly.
On her return to London, Sharon took the items she bought for Leech to his house. He had a male friend over so they were all catching up on gist when suddenly the front door was being unlocked form the outside and then a lady walked in. She greeted the guys first then looked at Sharon and asked who she was? Sharon thought okkkk what an unfriendly stab at her, and she proceeded to say "I am Leech's girlfriend". The Door Lady stirred at Sharon blank and said are u having a laugh? "I am Leech's girlfriend of 2 years" in fact the house u r in right now belongs to me! I pay the mortgage here and allowed Leech to stay until he finds his place. I live at home with my family but this property belongs to me! So Sharon u see you cannot be Leech's girlfriend.
By the time Sharon looked back, Leech and his male friend had escaped through the back door........ whilst the ladies were exchanging info. The Loser of a Leech had run away leaving Sharon with a stranger Door Lady. God is good that Door Lady was not a lunatic so she escorted Sharon out of the ....... what was now to be her "ex-cheating boyfriend's house". Sharon was sooo maddddd that tears refused to come down her cheeks. I mean how was she to know? She put two and two together that the girl from Facebook was this Door Lady. If only she had contacted her rather than thinking how Leech will feel if he found out. I mean was she really so trusting? There were no real signs of him having a babe and no gossip in town to that effect.
Leech didn't contact Sharon until a week after this event and it was even through an offline message. Said he knows sorry cannot make the situation better and that she didn't deserve this but he really felt that he was going to find the strength to break up with his girlfriend before Sharon found out. He said it was work in progress and that Door lady (his girlfriend) came to his house earlier than she usually does.........LOLLLLLLLLLLLL emmmm plsss u guys are u enjoying this sort of plea???? No remorse, instead justification as to how his Best laid plans went to the bin! Word in town was that Leech was telling people that Sharon knew he had a girlfriend. So good old Sharon did one last thing, she sent an email addressed to both Leech and Door lady stating her defense and making sure Leech can take comfort in knowing that Life itself will teach him a lesson. She isn't going to wish him ill, no need. The all seeing God will do justice to Leech. She prayed for Door Lady that she finds the strength to move on from such a 2 timing geezer but apparently she isn't about to throw 2 years of her relationship away. LOL LOL and yet we wonder why some marriages are doomed from the alter!!!
Leech guy met Sharon at a party (very popular meeting place eh), and after a good nite of dancing and chatting they exchanged numbers. Sharon is in a school outside London while Leech Guy works in London. Over the course of many weeks, Leech use to come and visit Sharon, hang out with her friends and pretty much got very familiar with her environment. Sharon grew fond of him cos of all the time and effort he use to put into coming down to see her. Finally she agreed to become his girlfriend. She initially played it down because she wanted to watch their relationship for a bit rather than announce she has a man and in no time telling people it's over. After 2 months, she was still getting the butterfly effects in her tummy so she became proud of her man and was ready to shout it on the roof top that she was on an all time high.
Sharon started coming down to London to spend time with her man in an attempt to know his group of friends as well. She got along with most of them and at the time she didn't feel any threat to her relationship. Until one day she checked good old Facebook for the daily feed and saw that a girl had left a message that sounded a bit more than just a mere friend......"Miss u loads". Sharon decides to ask Leech who that is, of cos he played it down and said it was an old friend he went to high school with back in Naija. Not trying to be paranoid, she let any negative thought that was building go. Then the wall messages from this babe started increasing. Most times they were non harmful, daily rantings so she still chose to ignore it. Then the babe started sending him Facebook gifts and so Sharon asked once again who this babe was? Leech guy said ok fine, she is an ex-girlfriend of mine, our relationship finished in January but she insisted we remain friends. Now that she knows I have u, she is trying her hardest to get attention and cause trouble.
At this point Sharon was very uncomfortable and cos she was 6 months into the relationship she didn't find it easy following her instinct that sumtin nasty was cooking in that dude's kitchen! She went on holiday with friends, and thought to herself that will be a good time to reflect on her current predicament. I mean why should a girl be acting so "crazy" as Leech guy was tryna insinuate if the dude isn't encouraging it? She didn't want to be forward and start contacting the girl cos that would show that she had trust issues. Leech kept calling her during the holiday and reassured her about their relationship. He even sent money for her to do some clothes shopping for him. Sharon says her friends were always irritated with how much time she spent selecting things for this guy and it was biting into her holiday fun time. Just cos she wanted to make sure he was impressed with her selection. Her compensation was that she could spend a bit on herself as well and hey this was her boify after all so she did it wholeheartedly.
On her return to London, Sharon took the items she bought for Leech to his house. He had a male friend over so they were all catching up on gist when suddenly the front door was being unlocked form the outside and then a lady walked in. She greeted the guys first then looked at Sharon and asked who she was? Sharon thought okkkk what an unfriendly stab at her, and she proceeded to say "I am Leech's girlfriend". The Door Lady stirred at Sharon blank and said are u having a laugh? "I am Leech's girlfriend of 2 years" in fact the house u r in right now belongs to me! I pay the mortgage here and allowed Leech to stay until he finds his place. I live at home with my family but this property belongs to me! So Sharon u see you cannot be Leech's girlfriend.
By the time Sharon looked back, Leech and his male friend had escaped through the back door........ whilst the ladies were exchanging info. The Loser of a Leech had run away leaving Sharon with a stranger Door Lady. God is good that Door Lady was not a lunatic so she escorted Sharon out of the ....... what was now to be her "ex-cheating boyfriend's house". Sharon was sooo maddddd that tears refused to come down her cheeks. I mean how was she to know? She put two and two together that the girl from Facebook was this Door Lady. If only she had contacted her rather than thinking how Leech will feel if he found out. I mean was she really so trusting? There were no real signs of him having a babe and no gossip in town to that effect.
Leech didn't contact Sharon until a week after this event and it was even through an offline message. Said he knows sorry cannot make the situation better and that she didn't deserve this but he really felt that he was going to find the strength to break up with his girlfriend before Sharon found out. He said it was work in progress and that Door lady (his girlfriend) came to his house earlier than she usually does.........LOLLLLLLLLLLLL emmmm plsss u guys are u enjoying this sort of plea???? No remorse, instead justification as to how his Best laid plans went to the bin! Word in town was that Leech was telling people that Sharon knew he had a girlfriend. So good old Sharon did one last thing, she sent an email addressed to both Leech and Door lady stating her defense and making sure Leech can take comfort in knowing that Life itself will teach him a lesson. She isn't going to wish him ill, no need. The all seeing God will do justice to Leech. She prayed for Door Lady that she finds the strength to move on from such a 2 timing geezer but apparently she isn't about to throw 2 years of her relationship away. LOL LOL and yet we wonder why some marriages are doomed from the alter!!!
Monday, 5 November 2007
Randy Guy
Hello Blogville! It feels like ages since I last dropped a frog. Well as most of you "normal" people would imagine, the last frog brought a lot of negative energy from some readers who seem very passionate about this frog or in some instances who just harbour so much hatred towards me. Either way I am glad I wrote it and I don't apologise for anything...... I had a fantastic weekend and I'm in such high spirits today! Good way to start the week. I attended an engagement party on Saturday and I was thrown back at how lively the venue was. There probably was 4 girls to 1 guy but it didn't matter cos we all formed our dancing groups and made the most of the nite. As I said in a previous post, my frog days are well over but since a few friends have insisted we check the archives for tales, one of them decided to volunteer a tale.
Randy frog is probably what some will call the average frog. I guess with age one starts to clearly see the difference between a guy that genuinely wants you for more than just a shag as opposed to the one who just needs you for a moment in his life. A few years ago, I attended a birthday party of Mandy's older sister who is married with a few kids. Mandy herself was already engaged to be married so it meant it was just my 2 other friends and I that were single of all the girls that came to the party. I was going through my "ugly smile" phase which has become quite a trademark for me so thankfully it worked as no frog even came close to leap on me. My 2 other girlfriends were not so lucky as they find it hard to be unfriendly. They did their best not to hand over their numbers to any guys but there were these 2 frogs that were so persistent. The 2 frogs escorted us to my car. I did my best to sound more unfriendly so as to scare them away. Of cos u could see their reaction going "biatch, is it cos we are not chatting u up" why don't u just hush it. I decided to just wait in the car. When my friends got in they said Figurella we just did sumtin not too smart. We both handed our numbers to these guys but they are actually correct numbers. Kelly gave Christine's number to the guy that chatted her up and Christine gave Kelly's number in return to her own frog. Therefore each guy was with the other girls number teh girl they actually didn't speak to.
I thought this would be the end ooo, at least let me get home before frogs start calling. Nooo, the guys immediately dialled the numbers and started asking where we were heading to after birthday party? Kelly says we are going home, the guys are not having any of this and pull up in front of my car to try and convince me to take the girls to Zen bar. Ha ha ha, we were there the week before and as always promised ourselves not to return to that venue (beansss we always seemed to end up there but not this nite). They asked if they could follow us home so I explained to them that my parents were around and the girls were sleeping over so that won't be possible. As I was driving off, I realised the guys were still tailing us!!! How scary. So I decided to do a detour and finally lost them. We got home and started laughing about the events that had just occurred then Christine's phone rang. Her own frog had figured out her silliness of giving her number to the other frog to confuse them. Cos she is so nice, she apologised and before I could say jack, these two were in full charge chatting mode.
They both realised that they had some friends in common and family friends n all. Christine starts to get more comfortable with the dude. He had a good job and from the sound of things was progressing rather fast career wise. In short he started getting some high marks in the toasting department. Before long, they decided to go on a dinner date. He said he will get her at 7pm but didn't come till 10pm. He then had the guts to say they should head straight to his house lol lol lol, Christine of cos flips and is like dude I haven't eaten anything so we sure need to get to a restaurant. Cos it was rather late they ended up going to a restaurant where she last ate with her ex boify (Omen). Surprisingly dinner goes well and she gets over his initial razzness. Then he insists they head back to his to watch a movie. She goes reluctantly and then he put on Hitch, she hates the film and tells him but he insisted they see it cos he found it hilarious. She keeps yawning to signify dude it's time u drop me at home, instead he kept going lets go upstairs and sleep lol lol. She says that's ok when your movie is over you can drop me. Once the film was over, Christine heads straight to the door and Randy guy starts sulking, she ignores him until they get to his car. While they are driving, he starts playing BoyzIImen, Maxwell, Joe.....then the CD starts skipping lol lol (Second Omen). He still insist that they can turn back and head to his and she just keeps laughing cos never seen a guy this persistent.
They get to her door step and he storms his way in. He refuses to leave her house and began asking if he could sleep over at her place. Christine starts to get extremely agitated cos she is now more certain than before that this dude is totally randy and is out for just a desert lol lol which in this case is her. He finally gets tired and heads home. By 7am he is already calling her that he needs to see her badly. Guess she woke up on the good side of the bed cos girlfriend finally succumbs to his plea to come and cook for him. He picks her up at midday and they head to his. He invited a few guy friends over and she cooks for all of them. I called her up looking for somewhere to hang but she wasn't comfortable enuff to invite me to his so I told her to just be careful. As u can imagine dude still kept trying to get her into his bed. Finally he gets the message and drops her at home. Lets just say she never heard from him again. Guess he woke up and realised that his Randy Razzness wasn't gonna get him home with her that nite lol. Though the first week was odd for her cos she had gotten use to his phone calls n all, by the 2nd week she was just thankful she caught him out on time as to what his sleazy game plan was.
Hmmmm let me be real, Christine was hurt for a while cos she really thought they were building towards a relationship. She tried calling him a few times and he gave very abrupt responses like "look can I call u back? I'm in the middle of sumtin" ..... I pleaded with her to just hold on to pride. Like I said earlier he was ticking all the right boxes for her and she couldn't place her finger as to why he will only want to get down with her and not want anything more than that. The reason became clear months later..........
Christine found out that he had a live in girlfriend!!!! who was out of town for a bit and that's why he kept looking for a girl who could cook and give him bedroom deserts whilst his babe was away. She finally got to meet him and his girlfriend at Cafe Royale and he of cos blanked her (standardddd) and she just thanked God for her lucky escape.
It's a Frogs World....................
Randy frog is probably what some will call the average frog. I guess with age one starts to clearly see the difference between a guy that genuinely wants you for more than just a shag as opposed to the one who just needs you for a moment in his life. A few years ago, I attended a birthday party of Mandy's older sister who is married with a few kids. Mandy herself was already engaged to be married so it meant it was just my 2 other friends and I that were single of all the girls that came to the party. I was going through my "ugly smile" phase which has become quite a trademark for me so thankfully it worked as no frog even came close to leap on me. My 2 other girlfriends were not so lucky as they find it hard to be unfriendly. They did their best not to hand over their numbers to any guys but there were these 2 frogs that were so persistent. The 2 frogs escorted us to my car. I did my best to sound more unfriendly so as to scare them away. Of cos u could see their reaction going "biatch, is it cos we are not chatting u up" why don't u just hush it. I decided to just wait in the car. When my friends got in they said Figurella we just did sumtin not too smart. We both handed our numbers to these guys but they are actually correct numbers. Kelly gave Christine's number to the guy that chatted her up and Christine gave Kelly's number in return to her own frog. Therefore each guy was with the other girls number teh girl they actually didn't speak to.
I thought this would be the end ooo, at least let me get home before frogs start calling. Nooo, the guys immediately dialled the numbers and started asking where we were heading to after birthday party? Kelly says we are going home, the guys are not having any of this and pull up in front of my car to try and convince me to take the girls to Zen bar. Ha ha ha, we were there the week before and as always promised ourselves not to return to that venue (beansss we always seemed to end up there but not this nite). They asked if they could follow us home so I explained to them that my parents were around and the girls were sleeping over so that won't be possible. As I was driving off, I realised the guys were still tailing us!!! How scary. So I decided to do a detour and finally lost them. We got home and started laughing about the events that had just occurred then Christine's phone rang. Her own frog had figured out her silliness of giving her number to the other frog to confuse them. Cos she is so nice, she apologised and before I could say jack, these two were in full charge chatting mode.
They both realised that they had some friends in common and family friends n all. Christine starts to get more comfortable with the dude. He had a good job and from the sound of things was progressing rather fast career wise. In short he started getting some high marks in the toasting department. Before long, they decided to go on a dinner date. He said he will get her at 7pm but didn't come till 10pm. He then had the guts to say they should head straight to his house lol lol lol, Christine of cos flips and is like dude I haven't eaten anything so we sure need to get to a restaurant. Cos it was rather late they ended up going to a restaurant where she last ate with her ex boify (Omen). Surprisingly dinner goes well and she gets over his initial razzness. Then he insists they head back to his to watch a movie. She goes reluctantly and then he put on Hitch, she hates the film and tells him but he insisted they see it cos he found it hilarious. She keeps yawning to signify dude it's time u drop me at home, instead he kept going lets go upstairs and sleep lol lol. She says that's ok when your movie is over you can drop me. Once the film was over, Christine heads straight to the door and Randy guy starts sulking, she ignores him until they get to his car. While they are driving, he starts playing BoyzIImen, Maxwell, Joe.....then the CD starts skipping lol lol (Second Omen). He still insist that they can turn back and head to his and she just keeps laughing cos never seen a guy this persistent.
They get to her door step and he storms his way in. He refuses to leave her house and began asking if he could sleep over at her place. Christine starts to get extremely agitated cos she is now more certain than before that this dude is totally randy and is out for just a desert lol lol which in this case is her. He finally gets tired and heads home. By 7am he is already calling her that he needs to see her badly. Guess she woke up on the good side of the bed cos girlfriend finally succumbs to his plea to come and cook for him. He picks her up at midday and they head to his. He invited a few guy friends over and she cooks for all of them. I called her up looking for somewhere to hang but she wasn't comfortable enuff to invite me to his so I told her to just be careful. As u can imagine dude still kept trying to get her into his bed. Finally he gets the message and drops her at home. Lets just say she never heard from him again. Guess he woke up and realised that his Randy Razzness wasn't gonna get him home with her that nite lol. Though the first week was odd for her cos she had gotten use to his phone calls n all, by the 2nd week she was just thankful she caught him out on time as to what his sleazy game plan was.
Hmmmm let me be real, Christine was hurt for a while cos she really thought they were building towards a relationship. She tried calling him a few times and he gave very abrupt responses like "look can I call u back? I'm in the middle of sumtin" ..... I pleaded with her to just hold on to pride. Like I said earlier he was ticking all the right boxes for her and she couldn't place her finger as to why he will only want to get down with her and not want anything more than that. The reason became clear months later..........
Christine found out that he had a live in girlfriend!!!! who was out of town for a bit and that's why he kept looking for a girl who could cook and give him bedroom deserts whilst his babe was away. She finally got to meet him and his girlfriend at Cafe Royale and he of cos blanked her (standardddd) and she just thanked God for her lucky escape.
It's a Frogs World....................
Tuesday, 30 October 2007
Somebody Else's Guy (aka Cry baby Guy)
There are things we do that defy logic and do not follow the normal unwritten rules of how a woman should handle a potential or just a toaster. This guy was certainly one that brought out the extreme end of kindness from me and also happens to be the reason I decided to start my frog tales. Each day I thank God for my strong personality, even times when I feel like emotionally this is too much for one person, I still find myself smiling in the morning. So you see fellow bloggers "Joy sure does come in the morning, and the old things shall pass away"......but before I embrace my new Prince, I needed to get this story out of me so that women who are successful at such a young age and unmarried must be constantly reminded that there are men that are just out to leech on u and won't loose a heart beat over your down fall. This was a situation where I wanted to do things differently, ignore the fact that he was a self-funding student (aka broke ass) but he came across as a focused and ambitious one. Seeing as free dinners had not gotten me far, I was still determined to rise above all of that. Now I know better, free dinner is still a better option than a "I will be rich some day" sort of guy. News Flash I am already rich if not materially but at least with the good Lord, my family, and loved ones.
It all began with Facebook. I got back from work one fine evening and I saw a message in my inbox from Cry baby. He complimented my pictures and asked about my well being. I initially didn't see any "Friends in Common" between us so I asked how he found me? Said he stumbled on my page via someones photo album but couldn't remember whose own. Anyway eventually I realised he knew one or two of my friends from High School so I decided to be friendly. We exchanged emails for quite a while and at the time I even had facebook access at work so he became my daily dose of excitement. Picture wise he looked good enuff, he seemed rather simple and came across as so focused. Said he was undergoing a full time MBA program and I sympathised with the amount of time and work that goes into it. He was in yankee and I was in London so he always flirted around with the idea of him coming down to see me.............Questions like where do u live back in Lagos, and what do you do for a living seemed like everyday normal things we ask from each other little did I know I was digging myself into a hole.
We moved to phone calls and he had an awfully sweet phone voice. On one of the days I called him, he sounded like a truck ran him down. He said he had just lost a loved one and had to fly back to Naija for the burial. I think because of how well we had connected I felt as though I needed to be there with him so since I couldn't be, I put on my clown hat and just tried to make him calm. It worked and throughout his stay in Naija I found myself being the one making him laugh before he went to sleep. We hadn't really discussed his status whether fully single, semi-single, chatting, or in a relationship. I decided to bring it up one nite, and he said well he wouldn't have started chatting me up if he wasn't single but that there was a girl he was "chatting" to a month before me. Apparently she had moved back to Naija to sort out her law school. I didn't sweat it cos Cry baby totally played it down, he even went as far as saying, "you have been there for me throughout this grieving period and he didn't ask it of me so he wanted to know if we could be an item, as in embark on a relationship". Thankfully I didn't jump on this offer cos I was wise enuff to realise he was an emotional mess and of cos it is easy to mix feelings of just friendship with a babe to mean sumtin else.
Cry baby was back in yankee and it was straight into exams for him. Of cos that whole period meant we couldn't talk as often and I found it hard cos now I was in a routine with this guy (fellow bloggers must understand that phone routine, where u start to expect calls at certain times and get slightly disappointed if it doesn't come thru). Close to the end of his exams, we played with the idea of him coming down but seeing as he was a student I knew that he was financially strained. I toyed with all sorts of ideas of how he could come down, air miles or.........I sha foolishly suggested we go half on the plane ticket (Plssss ooo bloggers don't bite my head off).
I told him to pay me back once he started his new job which obviously was to be after his MBA was over. LOL LOL of cos at this time I felt I was investing into a man (Depreciating asset), ooo I really was in la la land. I had never in my life found myself in this sort of situation where a guy cannot afford to fly down but I was so sure there was more to this brother. I was so sure that the supposed purity he put out there was genuine and in turn I was soooo sure my kindness will pay off. (It sure did not, no no it actually did cos I have been set free!!!).
Cry baby got to my town, and he didn't look as good as he did in the pictures but then again this was him with full hair and over grown facial hair so I knew a pretty face was hiding behind all of that. Seeing as he was still grieving, I made sure I took him to Church on two occasions and one of those Sundays, it was a very special day cos Pastor Adeboye was in town! I was so excited about this cos that man sure delivers the word of God! Cry baby was so thankful to be a part of the service and at this point I was getting comfortable, in fact I was sure I had moved up his radar. Not even 2 days into his trip down, his phone starts to ring, he had a London sim card which he had kept from a previous trip. As he picked the call, I immediately knew it was a lady he was speaking to. Initially I thot it was his sister and then I realised it was the girl who had moved to law schl.......lets call her Phone Girl. He spoke very relaxed with her but I noticed he found it hard telling her who he was with. Used the usual I am with a friend line and she didn't question him any further. I could make out some of their conversation cos he took the call next to me.
Lets just say Phone Girl got her name cos till today I never knew anyone could call somebody that amount of times. This girl called from Naija an average of 2 times per hour. Every hour ooo!!!I called Cry Baby's attention to this fact, he said that's how she is cos they had become good friends b4 she left for Law school and she hadn't settled down properly there so had no real friends to lean on bla bla. Okkkkk she aint your girl so this doesn't make sense? Finally by his 4th day with me, he changed his story to, well me and this girl had sumtin.... (AAAcccheeww=Big Sneeze from me) sumtin meaning what? Apparently they were going to start a relationship but he didn't feel he knew her well enuff before she left London. Rewinddddd.......which London is this dude talking about? This same London I live in? Emmmm Cry baby thot u said your last trip to London was to hang with family and friends? O yeah it was but that is when I met Phone Girl. U r kidding me right? Dude thot u said u did nothing but chat her up? O nooo did I forget to mention that she flew down to the States and I caught up with her there as well? U sure did forget that vital info! So where do the two of u stand? We are just friends, and although I was going to embark on a relationship with her, I met u and now I am so confused.
Confused.com sure couldn't solve this joke. My blood was steaming with serious confusion as well. Had this guy flown all the way down to just play my ass? Are there not enuff akata babes to play? Nahh there had to be more to this story. The remaining part of his trip was just a roller coaster. One minute I block out the possibility of another girl after all she wasn't even within his reach, the next minute I get into a tantrum with him and just blow off. On one of my off days, Cry baby guy decides to start cryinggggggg. He started using all his emotional baggage on me, said he doesn't know why he didn't just come out and be straight with me. He is in love with 2 women. LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL u r what? Emmm which 2? Ooo Phone Girl and me. Arrh rational me starts to wipe his tears off and tell him to calm down cos I had never met a man that will cry so openly. He addresses the fact that he had just lost a very loved one and of cos that person would have been able to pray about the situation for him. He was certain that the woman he was to spend the rest of his life with was already in his courtyard so now he had to decide who it was.
I looked at this guy and looked at myself 24 times over. I say kaii, is it because this one is fine like Tyson Beckford I go chop this joke (the day he shaved all his hair off and cleaned up is when I shld have realised I was in trouble, the transformation was dramatic) ? An intelligent good looking student, who is broke, so all I had was a promise of tomorrow being a better day, future correct job and possibility of settling down to my future............Hmmmm I just kept silent. Cry baby and I said our good byes and we decided that we shall leave it all to God. You see, for whatever emotional madness I had found myself in, I was certain my God would get me out of it. Why? Cos I meant nothing but good for this fellow creature! I had put myself out there like a door mat. He was walking all over me and I justified it as him being sincere. After all, other guys would have 2, 3, 4 girls and never discuss them with me. This guy is saying it is me vs Phone Girl for his undivided attention (You shld see me laughing at myself right now, it's all good sha).
After weeks of prayers and I was not getting head ways with this clown, I woke up and wrote what would be my final good bye email to him. He ignored it and was still acting like I was partially his. Finally the day arrived where we tackled the issue head on.
Me: Cry baby are u saying u never saw my good bye email, I can't take this joke anymore? Cry baby: Yes I did, but I had nothing to say so I thot it's best I stay quiet. Me: What do u mean u have nothing to say? I mean I only wrote it cos u still haven't said who u are going to be with? Cry baby: Arrhh, I thot u understood that I am with Phone Girl. Me: WTFFFFF???? Since when? Cry baby: well I thot about it and decided I haven't given her a chance to know me, so she is to fly down and we will see where we stand. But I don't want to loose u either so all I'm saying is I am SINGLE but I just need to know if there is still anything btwn me and Phone girl. Imagine this low life! What had he done for me? Or what could he do for me? Last time I checked he wasn't contributing towards my heavy financial responsibilities. If at all anything he owed me money sef hisssss. So that's how I left it. Pay up and I wish you well in life.
It is a Beautiful Life!!!
Bloggggeerrrssss, pls pls pls, can we constantly remind ourselves that the Male version of English is very powerful, not!. Chatting up now means Relationship, Relationship now means Married, is there anything else I am missing out? I was later to learn that Cry baby had indeed come to London in the past to see another girl (not Phone Girl oo), and that girl was his girlfriend but she broke it off cos she suspected that he was seeing someone else (ehennn that someone is Phone Girl). Apparently Phone Girl is aware that he is a "Sophisticated Con Artist" (words from my Pastor) and she is still happy to be with her man (I pray she find another, if not wishing u the best). Conclusion, I got played............I don't even pity myself any longer cos for a man to use the death of a loved one to emotionally get with a woman, he certainly has psychological problems and there will be no point harbouring hatred. He came to disturb the balance in my life but I thank God for his mercies, His overwhelming Grace cos that balance has been restored so quickly.
P.S. This is my last frog and by the Grace of God the very last frog I shall meet. I am embarking on a Prince's tale now so will see how that goes. For now it's goign very well and I feel very blessed for all the opportunities and 2nd chances that come my way. O well if I stumble across other frog tales I will post it from time to time. ......................
Well this is the end of the road for my frog tales. I will keep an ear out for other stories. Of cos I need permission before I can share.
It all began with Facebook. I got back from work one fine evening and I saw a message in my inbox from Cry baby. He complimented my pictures and asked about my well being. I initially didn't see any "Friends in Common" between us so I asked how he found me? Said he stumbled on my page via someones photo album but couldn't remember whose own. Anyway eventually I realised he knew one or two of my friends from High School so I decided to be friendly. We exchanged emails for quite a while and at the time I even had facebook access at work so he became my daily dose of excitement. Picture wise he looked good enuff, he seemed rather simple and came across as so focused. Said he was undergoing a full time MBA program and I sympathised with the amount of time and work that goes into it. He was in yankee and I was in London so he always flirted around with the idea of him coming down to see me.............Questions like where do u live back in Lagos, and what do you do for a living seemed like everyday normal things we ask from each other little did I know I was digging myself into a hole.
We moved to phone calls and he had an awfully sweet phone voice. On one of the days I called him, he sounded like a truck ran him down. He said he had just lost a loved one and had to fly back to Naija for the burial. I think because of how well we had connected I felt as though I needed to be there with him so since I couldn't be, I put on my clown hat and just tried to make him calm. It worked and throughout his stay in Naija I found myself being the one making him laugh before he went to sleep. We hadn't really discussed his status whether fully single, semi-single, chatting, or in a relationship. I decided to bring it up one nite, and he said well he wouldn't have started chatting me up if he wasn't single but that there was a girl he was "chatting" to a month before me. Apparently she had moved back to Naija to sort out her law school. I didn't sweat it cos Cry baby totally played it down, he even went as far as saying, "you have been there for me throughout this grieving period and he didn't ask it of me so he wanted to know if we could be an item, as in embark on a relationship". Thankfully I didn't jump on this offer cos I was wise enuff to realise he was an emotional mess and of cos it is easy to mix feelings of just friendship with a babe to mean sumtin else.
Cry baby was back in yankee and it was straight into exams for him. Of cos that whole period meant we couldn't talk as often and I found it hard cos now I was in a routine with this guy (fellow bloggers must understand that phone routine, where u start to expect calls at certain times and get slightly disappointed if it doesn't come thru). Close to the end of his exams, we played with the idea of him coming down but seeing as he was a student I knew that he was financially strained. I toyed with all sorts of ideas of how he could come down, air miles or.........I sha foolishly suggested we go half on the plane ticket (Plssss ooo bloggers don't bite my head off).
I told him to pay me back once he started his new job which obviously was to be after his MBA was over. LOL LOL of cos at this time I felt I was investing into a man (Depreciating asset), ooo I really was in la la land. I had never in my life found myself in this sort of situation where a guy cannot afford to fly down but I was so sure there was more to this brother. I was so sure that the supposed purity he put out there was genuine and in turn I was soooo sure my kindness will pay off. (It sure did not, no no it actually did cos I have been set free!!!).
Cry baby got to my town, and he didn't look as good as he did in the pictures but then again this was him with full hair and over grown facial hair so I knew a pretty face was hiding behind all of that. Seeing as he was still grieving, I made sure I took him to Church on two occasions and one of those Sundays, it was a very special day cos Pastor Adeboye was in town! I was so excited about this cos that man sure delivers the word of God! Cry baby was so thankful to be a part of the service and at this point I was getting comfortable, in fact I was sure I had moved up his radar. Not even 2 days into his trip down, his phone starts to ring, he had a London sim card which he had kept from a previous trip. As he picked the call, I immediately knew it was a lady he was speaking to. Initially I thot it was his sister and then I realised it was the girl who had moved to law schl.......lets call her Phone Girl. He spoke very relaxed with her but I noticed he found it hard telling her who he was with. Used the usual I am with a friend line and she didn't question him any further. I could make out some of their conversation cos he took the call next to me.
Lets just say Phone Girl got her name cos till today I never knew anyone could call somebody that amount of times. This girl called from Naija an average of 2 times per hour. Every hour ooo!!!I called Cry Baby's attention to this fact, he said that's how she is cos they had become good friends b4 she left for Law school and she hadn't settled down properly there so had no real friends to lean on bla bla. Okkkkk she aint your girl so this doesn't make sense? Finally by his 4th day with me, he changed his story to, well me and this girl had sumtin.... (AAAcccheeww=Big Sneeze from me) sumtin meaning what? Apparently they were going to start a relationship but he didn't feel he knew her well enuff before she left London. Rewinddddd.......which London is this dude talking about? This same London I live in? Emmmm Cry baby thot u said your last trip to London was to hang with family and friends? O yeah it was but that is when I met Phone Girl. U r kidding me right? Dude thot u said u did nothing but chat her up? O nooo did I forget to mention that she flew down to the States and I caught up with her there as well? U sure did forget that vital info! So where do the two of u stand? We are just friends, and although I was going to embark on a relationship with her, I met u and now I am so confused.
Confused.com sure couldn't solve this joke. My blood was steaming with serious confusion as well. Had this guy flown all the way down to just play my ass? Are there not enuff akata babes to play? Nahh there had to be more to this story. The remaining part of his trip was just a roller coaster. One minute I block out the possibility of another girl after all she wasn't even within his reach, the next minute I get into a tantrum with him and just blow off. On one of my off days, Cry baby guy decides to start cryinggggggg. He started using all his emotional baggage on me, said he doesn't know why he didn't just come out and be straight with me. He is in love with 2 women. LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL u r what? Emmm which 2? Ooo Phone Girl and me. Arrh rational me starts to wipe his tears off and tell him to calm down cos I had never met a man that will cry so openly. He addresses the fact that he had just lost a very loved one and of cos that person would have been able to pray about the situation for him. He was certain that the woman he was to spend the rest of his life with was already in his courtyard so now he had to decide who it was.
I looked at this guy and looked at myself 24 times over. I say kaii, is it because this one is fine like Tyson Beckford I go chop this joke (the day he shaved all his hair off and cleaned up is when I shld have realised I was in trouble, the transformation was dramatic) ? An intelligent good looking student, who is broke, so all I had was a promise of tomorrow being a better day, future correct job and possibility of settling down to my future............Hmmmm I just kept silent. Cry baby and I said our good byes and we decided that we shall leave it all to God. You see, for whatever emotional madness I had found myself in, I was certain my God would get me out of it. Why? Cos I meant nothing but good for this fellow creature! I had put myself out there like a door mat. He was walking all over me and I justified it as him being sincere. After all, other guys would have 2, 3, 4 girls and never discuss them with me. This guy is saying it is me vs Phone Girl for his undivided attention (You shld see me laughing at myself right now, it's all good sha).
After weeks of prayers and I was not getting head ways with this clown, I woke up and wrote what would be my final good bye email to him. He ignored it and was still acting like I was partially his. Finally the day arrived where we tackled the issue head on.
Me: Cry baby are u saying u never saw my good bye email, I can't take this joke anymore? Cry baby: Yes I did, but I had nothing to say so I thot it's best I stay quiet. Me: What do u mean u have nothing to say? I mean I only wrote it cos u still haven't said who u are going to be with? Cry baby: Arrhh, I thot u understood that I am with Phone Girl. Me: WTFFFFF???? Since when? Cry baby: well I thot about it and decided I haven't given her a chance to know me, so she is to fly down and we will see where we stand. But I don't want to loose u either so all I'm saying is I am SINGLE but I just need to know if there is still anything btwn me and Phone girl. Imagine this low life! What had he done for me? Or what could he do for me? Last time I checked he wasn't contributing towards my heavy financial responsibilities. If at all anything he owed me money sef hisssss. So that's how I left it. Pay up and I wish you well in life.
It is a Beautiful Life!!!
Bloggggeerrrssss, pls pls pls, can we constantly remind ourselves that the Male version of English is very powerful, not!. Chatting up now means Relationship, Relationship now means Married, is there anything else I am missing out? I was later to learn that Cry baby had indeed come to London in the past to see another girl (not Phone Girl oo), and that girl was his girlfriend but she broke it off cos she suspected that he was seeing someone else (ehennn that someone is Phone Girl). Apparently Phone Girl is aware that he is a "Sophisticated Con Artist" (words from my Pastor) and she is still happy to be with her man (I pray she find another, if not wishing u the best). Conclusion, I got played............I don't even pity myself any longer cos for a man to use the death of a loved one to emotionally get with a woman, he certainly has psychological problems and there will be no point harbouring hatred. He came to disturb the balance in my life but I thank God for his mercies, His overwhelming Grace cos that balance has been restored so quickly.
P.S. This is my last frog and by the Grace of God the very last frog I shall meet. I am embarking on a Prince's tale now so will see how that goes. For now it's goign very well and I feel very blessed for all the opportunities and 2nd chances that come my way. O well if I stumble across other frog tales I will post it from time to time. ......................
Well this is the end of the road for my frog tales. I will keep an ear out for other stories. Of cos I need permission before I can share.
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