Men you bloggers make writing so fun and fulfilling! Thank you so much for all your love and support. Sometimes I feel my life is some sort of reality TV show lol. The weekend started on a fantastic level! I went for Festival of Life. For those who know about it I'm sure they can testify that you get so refreshed after the anointing is poured on you. It is a Night vigil event where Christians from all over the UK come and celebrate God and life. It's a time to reflect, a time to heal and a time to grow. I feel strengthened and I am confident that the Lord's strength will see me through the inevitable roller coaster of life.
I want to give a shout out to the writer behind www.bridesville.blogspot.com. Thanks to the Anon who pointed me there. I hope she gets to read my blog as well. I pray you will laugh so hard at some of my past stories (that's if you are not already a reader). All I can say is reading your blog made me realise that as humans when we are going through certain hurts or disappointments, it's the same exact feeling that overwhelms the best of us. I mean girl your description of how alone you felt after you realised your man was gone and never to return just totally gave me the shivers because I sure have been there 1 too many times. Therefore I urge all females to always take the deepest breathe ever when they are going through Male issues and look out to the world to see how others are coping because you might just get comfort from another story you hear. You are never alone! The Joy of the Lord will forever remain your strength so please lets endeavour to keep that joy burning.
I use to joke that men had a school they graduate from where they teach them the ways to become either a God fearing Man or just a mere Frog. It is clear that from that school they are handed out 2 dissertation choices either write about how you want to make your life count, how to respect fellow human beings, how to love with patience and be rewarded, or write about how being a player is the best feeling in the world, how to brag to your male counterparts after every conquest of the female specie, etc. So you see it's always a Choice! Now I know that when a man makes the decision to love he can almost immediately make the decision to revoke the love. Vice-versa for women to but since I am not here to criticise females I'll just hope we also check ourselves before placing blame on the men alone.
I mean anytime I replay "Cry Baby Guy" in my head, I can't stop laughing because even when I found out he had a deceptive story I still carried on the lala dream. "Phone girl" was made to look like a lunatic and I was happy to belief in the lies not even bothering myself that he probably was calling me a lunatic to her as well. It's the same story they cook up for each female but it's always a different girl in the picture frame. Guess sometimes you spice up one story for a slight variation but that's it really. But of cause I must hold on to the strong belief that not all men are frogs :-)) , I hope so! Anyway since I'm having an awfully late start to my day I best be off. Have a blessed weekend all.
Saturday, 29 March 2008
Tuesday, 25 March 2008
To be or Not to be?
Hallo hallo, so most of us except those in the States and wherever else would just be returning from a very long weekend break thanks to Easter. I'm not feeling as refreshed as I ought to be cause of certain female monthly issues (awful), and some other personal matters. Anyway all in all I'm glad I woke up in one piece and though it's freezing outside, the sun still manages to shine as a reminder that the Lord is shining down on us all.
On my way to work I decided to do the ritual of putting on my ipod. I stumbled on Lauryn Hill, the album, The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill. I always knew it was great for her to win so many Grammy's back in the days but today I really appreciated why she did. In her song "Forgive them Father", she mentioned a very valuable point........."Men who lack conscience will always lie to themselves but worst of is that they go on and lie to God too, therefore why won't they lie to us women?"
Whoaaa I just felt my brain pause when I heard those words. Now I can finally begin to just accept that the world is what it is and one can only look out for Number 1 which in this case is me, is you, and whoever else. You can't vouch for anyone really well I can't. A friend of mine met a guy at a club a few years back. They danced, drank, had a good laugh and finally exchanged numbers. As she was just getting over a hurtful break up she decided to really take her time with this dude. It was even easier for her to take as much time as she wanted because they were not living in the same town. They will meet up occasionally and hang out all in the name of getting to know each other better.
After many months my female friend decided it was time for her to start visiting him at home. He lived alone but had the occasional male friends sleep over as he had a spare room. He will drive her around town, take her wherever she requested in short she was unsuspecting of anything. On one faithful day, this guy came to get her from the station but this time he took her to another house. She asked whose house it was and he replied his family home. When they arrived she saw him trying to block the mantel piece with his body. He was acting very odd. She decided to excuse herself from the living room and head to the bathroom. Unbeknown to him my friend caught a glimpse of the picture as they walked into the house! It was him, a woman and a child in the frame! She sat in the bathroom for what seemed like forever pondering on what the picture was and wondering why he chose to block it off by standing in front of it and refusing to sit down.
Finally she came to the realisation that this man with no conscience had brought her to his marital home!!!! She decided to walk straight back to the living room to confront him. There was no need the picture was gone! He had cleared the mantel piece before she got back. She was in so much shock that she decided it was best for her to shut up and politely asked to be dropped off at the station. When they got there, this 10 time loser got on his knees crying, pleading with her that he knows she must have seen the picture/s but that it is to be his future ex-wife. Yep bloggers "Future ex-wife". That there was no point telling her about him being married because he is going to ask for a divorce. Lord please stop me from laughing lol lol lol. My friend looked at this man in disgust and told him in a stern voice never to dial her number again, never look in her direction again, in short erase their memories because it will only damage him further.
Of cos it took him time to understand her message/advise but he finally got it. Well for those curious, the wife never found out and she went on to have more kids for her loving hubbie. My girl is doing great in her life as God has blessed her bountifully. So tell me where was it written that it is mandatory for a man to get married? This life is all about Choices the problem as Lauryn Hill has pointed out is so many lack a conscience so we just Have to forgive them! because our father in Heaven forgives us so easily.
This picture keeps coming to mind, a suspecting or unsuspecting wife sits at home with her newly born child waiting day and night for her husband to return home. In some cases they do come home in other cases you cry yourself to sleep and hold the child even tighter because you not sure what you have done to deserve it? Hmmmmm............
On my way to work I decided to do the ritual of putting on my ipod. I stumbled on Lauryn Hill, the album, The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill. I always knew it was great for her to win so many Grammy's back in the days but today I really appreciated why she did. In her song "Forgive them Father", she mentioned a very valuable point........."Men who lack conscience will always lie to themselves but worst of is that they go on and lie to God too, therefore why won't they lie to us women?"
Whoaaa I just felt my brain pause when I heard those words. Now I can finally begin to just accept that the world is what it is and one can only look out for Number 1 which in this case is me, is you, and whoever else. You can't vouch for anyone really well I can't. A friend of mine met a guy at a club a few years back. They danced, drank, had a good laugh and finally exchanged numbers. As she was just getting over a hurtful break up she decided to really take her time with this dude. It was even easier for her to take as much time as she wanted because they were not living in the same town. They will meet up occasionally and hang out all in the name of getting to know each other better.
After many months my female friend decided it was time for her to start visiting him at home. He lived alone but had the occasional male friends sleep over as he had a spare room. He will drive her around town, take her wherever she requested in short she was unsuspecting of anything. On one faithful day, this guy came to get her from the station but this time he took her to another house. She asked whose house it was and he replied his family home. When they arrived she saw him trying to block the mantel piece with his body. He was acting very odd. She decided to excuse herself from the living room and head to the bathroom. Unbeknown to him my friend caught a glimpse of the picture as they walked into the house! It was him, a woman and a child in the frame! She sat in the bathroom for what seemed like forever pondering on what the picture was and wondering why he chose to block it off by standing in front of it and refusing to sit down.
Finally she came to the realisation that this man with no conscience had brought her to his marital home!!!! She decided to walk straight back to the living room to confront him. There was no need the picture was gone! He had cleared the mantel piece before she got back. She was in so much shock that she decided it was best for her to shut up and politely asked to be dropped off at the station. When they got there, this 10 time loser got on his knees crying, pleading with her that he knows she must have seen the picture/s but that it is to be his future ex-wife. Yep bloggers "Future ex-wife". That there was no point telling her about him being married because he is going to ask for a divorce. Lord please stop me from laughing lol lol lol. My friend looked at this man in disgust and told him in a stern voice never to dial her number again, never look in her direction again, in short erase their memories because it will only damage him further.
Of cos it took him time to understand her message/advise but he finally got it. Well for those curious, the wife never found out and she went on to have more kids for her loving hubbie. My girl is doing great in her life as God has blessed her bountifully. So tell me where was it written that it is mandatory for a man to get married? This life is all about Choices the problem as Lauryn Hill has pointed out is so many lack a conscience so we just Have to forgive them! because our father in Heaven forgives us so easily.
This picture keeps coming to mind, a suspecting or unsuspecting wife sits at home with her newly born child waiting day and night for her husband to return home. In some cases they do come home in other cases you cry yourself to sleep and hold the child even tighter because you not sure what you have done to deserve it? Hmmmmm............
Sunday, 23 March 2008
When Does It end?
I can just see some bloggers reaction right now saying.........O MY GOSH SHE IS BACK! Well yeah I'm sort of back but not sure for how long this time. I must say there are times I really wanted to write but I just didn't seem to have the luxury of time any more. At least I'm pleased to say it is for a good cause which is focusing on my relationship and trying hard to learn that sometimes getting criticised and blunt views is the only way to really shake up and grow. I'm having a good ride so far and as always we can only Hope for the best.
Well well well, Amala guy (aka Big Belle Daddy) from a previous post, called me ystday after such a long ass while. Seeing as I didn't have his number any more I was a bit apprehensive about picking a strange number. He finally announced himself as Amala guy and I was shocked cause our last conversation certainly didn't go down well with him. Said he stumbled on my number and thought it would be nice to catch up with me. He gave me a progress report on his new life and how well things are going for him.
Unfortunately this son of a gun forgot to mention that just a month or so ago, his wife-to-be gave birth to a child, a boy! Yes this real low life actually had a pregnant fiance who lived separate from him whilst he was trying to get with me! I mean this character went as far as writing me a long ass essay about how he always felt we were meant to be together. How he really thought he had found his future in me, Marriage! Arrrhhhhhhhhhh I'm so so sick of this. There I was thinking perhaps I'm being to harsh on him, I mean dude you couldn't financially afford me not to talk of a marital life. But now it makes more sense. You were saving for your future wife. Well Congrats to you and the lady. I couldn't careless what your explanation would be for this deceit and foolishness. We serve a forgiving God is the only reason why I can't be bothered with your sorry ass. Good luck and God bless!
When does it end? Does it ever end? When does a man stand up and call himself a MAN? I mean who are these Men???? This is already out of control and just getting worse daily. Are we not praying hard enuff? Or does God have another plan we can't yet foresee? You go clubbing it's married peeps with rings off, chatting anything and anyone that cares to listen! Some are lucky enuff to get a girl back to their "Bachelor Pads", yeah they keep it even after marriage so that their "smallies" aka Mistresses can hang out there with them till they can face going home to tell more lies to their sometimes lovely wives or other times not so lovely lol lol. Ahh well.
Let me say this very clearly, just because last year I chose to sometimes publish some foolish comments or did not react to those low lives that were playing Inspector Stupidity sending me hate emails and what not, does not not mean I will even read talkless of publish any bullocks this year. I mean it's not rocket science to know who I am, duhhhhhhh so stop acting as though I set out to be some mysterious blonde with no purpose in life. I thank God for where I am now and where I am heading. Sorry to those males who feel women have done worse to them please feel free to blog about this. I mean I can't imagine what else you will put in the blog other than: Ooo she cheated on me, OOO she loves money, OOO she still cheated on me, yesssss we have heard! The stories are always the same so hey tell us something new.
Anyhoo, I met a bunch of girls who are keen on sharing a tale or two. Once I gather the contents, I'll do a write up and you can all contribute via leaving Comments as u have always done so diligently lol lol. Remember if you have a tale to share do feel free to email it to otokunbo@yahoo.co.uk
Well well well, Amala guy (aka Big Belle Daddy) from a previous post, called me ystday after such a long ass while. Seeing as I didn't have his number any more I was a bit apprehensive about picking a strange number. He finally announced himself as Amala guy and I was shocked cause our last conversation certainly didn't go down well with him. Said he stumbled on my number and thought it would be nice to catch up with me. He gave me a progress report on his new life and how well things are going for him.
Unfortunately this son of a gun forgot to mention that just a month or so ago, his wife-to-be gave birth to a child, a boy! Yes this real low life actually had a pregnant fiance who lived separate from him whilst he was trying to get with me! I mean this character went as far as writing me a long ass essay about how he always felt we were meant to be together. How he really thought he had found his future in me, Marriage! Arrrhhhhhhhhhh I'm so so sick of this. There I was thinking perhaps I'm being to harsh on him, I mean dude you couldn't financially afford me not to talk of a marital life. But now it makes more sense. You were saving for your future wife. Well Congrats to you and the lady. I couldn't careless what your explanation would be for this deceit and foolishness. We serve a forgiving God is the only reason why I can't be bothered with your sorry ass. Good luck and God bless!
When does it end? Does it ever end? When does a man stand up and call himself a MAN? I mean who are these Men???? This is already out of control and just getting worse daily. Are we not praying hard enuff? Or does God have another plan we can't yet foresee? You go clubbing it's married peeps with rings off, chatting anything and anyone that cares to listen! Some are lucky enuff to get a girl back to their "Bachelor Pads", yeah they keep it even after marriage so that their "smallies" aka Mistresses can hang out there with them till they can face going home to tell more lies to their sometimes lovely wives or other times not so lovely lol lol. Ahh well.
Let me say this very clearly, just because last year I chose to sometimes publish some foolish comments or did not react to those low lives that were playing Inspector Stupidity sending me hate emails and what not, does not not mean I will even read talkless of publish any bullocks this year. I mean it's not rocket science to know who I am, duhhhhhhh so stop acting as though I set out to be some mysterious blonde with no purpose in life. I thank God for where I am now and where I am heading. Sorry to those males who feel women have done worse to them please feel free to blog about this. I mean I can't imagine what else you will put in the blog other than: Ooo she cheated on me, OOO she loves money, OOO she still cheated on me, yesssss we have heard! The stories are always the same so hey tell us something new.
Anyhoo, I met a bunch of girls who are keen on sharing a tale or two. Once I gather the contents, I'll do a write up and you can all contribute via leaving Comments as u have always done so diligently lol lol. Remember if you have a tale to share do feel free to email it to otokunbo@yahoo.co.uk
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