I am yet to come across a Friday that makes me unhappy! Finally I can catch up on that much needed sleep as I got a bit of insomnia going on so I tend to look a hot mess on my daily journey to work. Anyhoo I made it to the theatre last nite. I am so proud of myself I actually convinced a Naija guy to take me to see a Show! I saw Footloose, rather childish but nonetheless entertaining. Apart from my Father who has seen Lion King 3 times, I don't know too many guys that are into theatre moves. Well guess u can say I am still at the honey moon stage where the guy will do his best to impress you. We even had dinner before the show so that was very cool as well. Thanks to those that recommended that Restaurant "Katana at the International", every bite of my food was just a delight!
Well today I stumbled upon an article in the Metro about a lady who stabbed her Lover's wife 43 times out of rage and jealousy that had been consuming her. The story was reminiscent of a colleague of mine just that my colleague thankfully didn't go and kill the other lady. I know love drives people to do all sorts of weird things but I start to question whether it was ever love to begin with? I'll use my colleagues story to explain what led to this lady becoming a murderer.
Natasha met her boyfriend 7 years ago at her then work place. They were both sales assistant in a store and even ended up attending the same University so they had more than enuff time to know about each other. They are Asians, as most will know it is not customary to be seen dating a guy but hey guess people find a way around these things. She was undeniably in love, and she felt her guy was on that same page too. Her parents had brought tonnes of men to see her for marriage but she refused saying she wanted to do a "Love marriage" as they call it. Her parents decided to give her a bit of space to explore that route.
Natasha and her man started making future plans. He promised her the world and she in turn promised him her all. They were inseparable until they both got city jobs and time became their biggest enemy. Their ritual of meeting each other after school became more of phone calls and sporadic meetings. Natasha started noticing a few changes in her man, the usual, "I'll call you back" and no call comes through or the "We should do something this wknd" but no dates come through. Out of love she ignored these little warnings and was holding on to the fact that she had known this guy for 7 years and they had been wonderful years for her.
What was about to happen one bright morning in the cold of November last year was something that would change her life and perception of men forever. Her man aka "Double lives guy" came to Natasha's house unannounced before she left for work. He knocked on her front door and luckily for him she was the one that opened. She quickly shut the door behind her asking him what he was doing there as her parents were at home. He started crying, and she just looked at him puzzled?
Double Lives Guy: Natasha there is something I need to tell you.
Natasha: What is it? I have never seen you cry you are scaring me!
Double Lives Guy: I am sooooo sorry, gosh what have I done? ...........I AM GETTING MARRIED TOMORROW.
Natasha: Plssss can you quit playing with me! I am not amused, I suggest you tell me what you really came here for?
Double Lives Guy: I swear on my mother's life, they forced me, I was forced, gosh I am so stupid, it is you I love. Butttt I have to marry this girl tomorrow. Ok ok why don't we run away?
Natasha: (Her knees are weak and she is about to pass out), Why r u saying all these things to me? This isn't you? You always said you will fight for us! Fight for love! No one can force you into anything so pls shut-up!
Double Lives Guy: Does this mean you won't consider running away with me?
Natasha: No I won't. I love my family very much, I have even told them about you and they said when you are ready you should bring your mother and family over to propose! So No I will not be running anywhere.
Double Lives Guy: In that case, I have no choice but to beg for your forgiveness and wish you well. Good bye Natasha, you were the best thing that ever happened to me.
...........and just like that he left! Natasha ran back into the house and screamed for her sisters to come down. They all wept with her on hearing this sad sad News. She didn't show up to work for 2 weeks or so and it was hard getting through to her. By the time she got back, she had dropped from a size 12 to a size 8! I was in shock! I also cried cos I could see the pain and confusion in her eyes. For days on end she will get up and run to the bathroom to cry. She is Muslim, I am Christian but at this point I just needed God to console her fully. I prayed for her / with her daily and a year later she has bounced back.
Natasha found out so many things. Double Lives Guy did indeed get married that day but it was not a forced marriage. Apparently he had been dating the other girl for 4 years! This wicked soul did not think it right to break up with Natasha. 7 years of her adult life gone like that. Ahhh well I'm happy she didn't marry him. Perhaps the signs were there and she refused to take hid but apparently the other lady he married is from another town and they don't have any mutual friends that might have raised alarm bells. The wife has now moved into London and Natasha spots her around town driving a luxurious car and looking hot and of cos she keeps thinking to herself perhaps I wasn't pretty enough, maybe he got irritated with my kindness (believe me this girl is too much like an Angel!)
In fact I am sure this is one of the few angels in this world! Her heart is so pure, when she speaks you can sense all the naivety in her. She sees only good in people..............It is because of people like her I feel sad for those blogggers who come here writing nothing significant and really thinking they have gotten a "point" across to me???? I laugh. I pray people find the strength to laugh more about their past and just get on with it and move on, Amen!
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thats a truly sad story...but im glad to hear that Natasha is gettin her groove bk.
We allow so much for the sake of love. But im thinking, bein as she had been with him for 7 yrs.....wud things hav been diff if it wasnt that he was getting married?? suppose he had come to confess...or somehow (as it often does) she found out abt his double life....shud she hav tried to work it out with him?? wud it have been less painful if he hadnt gottn married??
jus some thots that i had...and jus wanted other opinions.
p.s. despite his actions, i will give the guy some credit....at least he came to tell her. altho did he really think she was gona run away with him?
I think that was cruel of him even though he did go tell her the day before. I mean, what was the point? I obviously didn't get it...he wasn't forced to marry the other lady so why ask her to elope with him? What if she had agreed?
Not all men are like that oh!My boyfriend actually likes the theatre and stuff like that so we do go quite a bit.It's lovely.Try Chicago or Sound of Music if you get the chance to.
Anyway,that guy was mean and plain evil.I really feel for your friend but it's a good thing she was able to bounce back.Some ppl would never recover from such so quickly.
May God not allow such people near us..AMEN!!!
Not all men are like that oh!My boyfriend actually likes the theatre and stuff like that so we do go quite a bit.It's lovely.Try Chicago or Sound of Music if you get the chance to.
Anyway,that guy was mean and plain evil.I really feel for your friend but it's a good thing she was able to bounce back.Some ppl would never recover from such so quickly.
May God not allow such people near us..AMEN!!!
Wow, that's sad. I wonder y he came to beg her to run away with him if he never really loved her. Maybe he was forced to be with the other girl. Asians are usually very submissive to their families, so it's possible. Although, i think he should have told her what was going on instead of waiting until the last minute. That was cruel.
You are right. That is what life is about Moviong on. Learning from your past and not letting it over shadow you.
Good writing girl. good writing!
Just wanted to say, thanks for your blog, I cannot understand why people r hating on you.
But anyhoo....I'm happy u were there for her. I had a similar thing happen to me, and went from a size 10 to a size 6 in the blink of an eye, moved continents, and lost some friends as they had divided loyalties..oh the things we learn from our past!
wow- that was very touching- my goodness- she does sound quite angelic saying "maybe my kindness irritated him"- it seeems to me that's the trait of hers that stopped her from going gangster on him like i wud have!! i'm glad she's getting her life back on track- now, i only wonder- what wud have happened IF she had agreed to run away with him??(oh well, i guess he knew it was one thing she'd never do, they'd probably discussed it previously)
Just goes to show- its not only Nig guys that can be bad frogs... thanks anyway- was a good read for a monday morning..
I am glad she didn't elope with him. There is already a serious character flaw with this dude. Remember she found out it was a "Love Marriage" he had so it means the mean cow was stringing her along for that amount of years. The whole trying to act like the victim at the last minute was just a white wash.
Anon @ 22:53, really sorry to hear a similar thing happened to u. So long as there is life and the never ending Grace of God u shall triumph.
Crying?
This guy has mommy issues. If he is seeing a therapist he needs a better one.
In my opinion I think Natasha was lucky she didn’t marry him cos if he wasn’t bold enough to break it off with her while dating the other girl then who’s to say what the other girl is going thru in the marriage with DLG?
How is N so sure he doesn’t have a string of girlfriends with one probably living with HIV?
Good Riddance that’s what I say. She should be celebrating her liberation from that creep.
I think Love makes you selfless and you keep on taking things even though they are sure signs of a break up. No one can feel the pain of a break up except the person in that trauma.
It amazing how you keep blaming yourself and the things that have gone wrong...we all do. As a minister said "Affairs of the heart is for the matured" and in your pain, you learn. Let's call it an emotional CV. Its a CV to be treasured.
God heals the broken hearted.
LBoogie
My EX-boyfriend actually surprised me to see mama mia....and then lots of other plays afterwards!!...thank God for cultured people!...lol
Poor Nata....jeezee...some mothers do have 'em
Wow, i'm sorry your friend had to go through that, but i blv she's come out of it a stronger person and hopefully she won't ignore the glaring signs next time. I wish i could say she probably won't meet anor scum but as long as there are men in this world we all stand a reasonable high chance of meeting such guys. The important thing is to learn from the experience of others and be true to ourselves.
i've been an ardent fan of ur writing abilities, though ve neva commented, but what i just read is...heart breaking!!! How can a normal 'humanoid' exert such damage on his kind??? Well, obviously he ain't normal.
Glad she had God and u to help her. She is so much beta off!!! Only a strong woman can go thru dat and still remain standing.
Kudos to N and anonymous!!
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