Bachelor Guy (aka Actually Married)

Well my dear Anonymous bloggers, you will be sad to know that today's post is not based on any of my froggy pasts. This one is based on one of my numerous friends who has also stumbled on a few frogs.

I have noticed that the month or two after xmas holls, the single girls amongst my friends seem very hopeful that they will meet Mr Right at the start of the year but if by after summer no show, they just become granny like and their socialising with the opposite sex is close to non-existent. Guess this particular year was a bit different cos we were overly positive that everyone will get a man before Valentine's day. LOL LOL yep I know what is sooo special about that day, big deal u can always watch those girls on your way to work and from work grinning to themselves cos they carrying a bunch of flowers, teddy bear, chocolates and whatever else. I mean we girls who didn't receive can just smile knowing God loves u and He is the best Valentine's gift :-))

Anyhoo it was a Saturday and we got our "trying to still look hot and sassy in a winter attire" on and headed for a house party who a close friend of ours invited us to. It was her much older cousins birthday so we had been anticipating the age group that would be there and weighing the probability of how many men will be single and all. We get to this gorgeous house, in fact for London standards it was just massive. We were so excited cos this meant there was enough space for people to move around easily and dance when you felt like it. The only problem was the calibre of men here. Before I am crucified or called proud, let me just say good luck to girls who like to pretend to themselves cos there are just some guys that are not it at allll. Seeing as the age group here were late 20s - mid 30s, we hadn't anticipated the Pot belle Daddy's. My girls and I resorted to dancing in a firmly kept circle and totally ignored any male attention.

As my girl lets call her Carrie was dancing away, I noticed one of her ex boify come in and called her attention to this. Her expression was more like Great, just greattt, can the nite get any beta?! As this irritation was building in her, a not so bad looking guy approached her for a dance, she jumped right on him cos she needed her ex to see her having fun (women u know what I mean). The nite was drawing to an end so this guy asks Carrie for her number and of cos I knew she would give a fake number lol lol cos she wasn't feeling the brother that much. Fake number plus fake name and they said their good byes. She thought that would be the last they will see of each other (if only she knew). This guy obviously tried the number and realised he had been played lol lol so he decided to hunt this babe down. He calls the celebrant hey do u know a Lindsey? Of cos she did not but after much description she put two and two together and knew it was Carrie. i bet he must have bribed the celebrant cos she so would not just hand over a correct number of a babe who obviously gave a fake number for a reason.

Bachelor guy calls Carrie and I guess she was slightly thrown back on how hot on her heels he had been. The struggle to get a number na wa oo. Before u know it she starts to give her real info and they hit it off. Well then again Val's day was already knocking on her door so she thot it was an early present :-)) They started going on countless dates and after much persuasion she agreed to be his girlfriend. What is surprising is I never had the chance to meet this guy but he had heard a lot about me as I am one of her main friends. I wish I had met him around the start of it all maybe, just maybe I would have smelt a rat.

Carrie was doing a lot of travelling that year and I went on one of those holidays with her. She had arranged for Bachelor to pick us up. The regular flights being delayed meant that we kept him waiting for a little over 20mins. He barely greeted us as we got to his car and just left the boot open for us to throw our stuff in ourselves. The journey to my hse was so quiet. Finally I am home and there was no lift in my then flat so I thought he will offer to help me with some bags up the stairs. He didn't. He just sat in his car and waited for me to off load. Carrie got down and gave me a hand and as we climbed upstairs I kept asking if he had mental problems? She was just embarrassed at his behaviour so barley said anything. Once she got home she called me immediately and it was evident that there was sumtin not right about this guy. He seemed nervous throughout the car ride (we will later understand why) so we kept wondering if he had met me somewhere before and is scared I know his story. I asked her where he lives, she mentioned some nice part of London and said he shared an apartment with another Bachelor.

Well things were not going too well again between Bachelor and Carrie so she called it off. I mean the constant not picking his phone and finding it hard to speak for long at certain times of the day, getting agitated at everything. He was just acting odd. As God will have it be, Carrie and myself were invited for a wedding. I ran to the bathroom so fast that my dress nearly tore! I could hardly breathe, this was a moment of fear/confusion/ weakness my knees nearly gave way at what I was about to tell my friend!!! I said Carrie, emmmm Bachelor is here, she was like ok is that why u look like u just saw a ghost? I was like Nooo, emmmm Bachelor came in with a woman and 2 kids!!! She goes ok, might be his sister and the children. I said Nooo, unfortunately my cousin had confirmed that it is his wife and kids cos my cousin attended the same University as him! so she was sure he was married.

Carrie walks out of bathroom and walks towards his table and he quickly got up before she got there (LOLLLLLLL), he goes hello long time? She was like Hi, was just about to come and greet you and the family. He froze and said .......take care of yourself. Ooooo Lord thank u for how nice some of we women are. WTF???????? take care? cheiii this was just a sickening moment. Rewinnddd wasn't this a guy who lived in a Bachelor pad with his mate? I mean she had spent a lot of time in his house, and there was no sign of wife. If this was not bad enuff I got to Church the very next day to see Bachelor and his family at my Church sitting in a row in front of me. I found it hard concentrating. He kept grinning like a b**tard! God pls forgive me but it's so hard not to curse at some men! I am in Church and all I want to do is get abusive cos Carrie had been played and it was just soooo unfair. This was why he was acting funny the day of the airport!!! He must have recognised me from the Church.........and to top it off the dude actually calls Carrie to ask if they could meet up for a drink and talk??? Em, poor Carrie was like “Haven’t you embarrassed me and yourself enuff? Abeg am ready to let sleeping dogs lie and let God be the judge of all this”

There are women out there who are into extra marital affairs so why didn't he tell her he was married? Ok revenge for her giving a fake number to begin with? Kaiii women always go with your first instinct, usually never lies!!! I was later to learn that a lot of London married men keep Bachelor pads sooo emmmm girlfriends plssss be extra careful cos this game which "Anonymous" has told me to get out of is getting tougher to play. It's just not a levelled playing ground. May God continually give us the strength to survive through situations like this........Amen.